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Why don’t people wanna be around me even though I’ve done or said nothing wrong?

Anonymous 7w

Sometimes people judge without knowing they’re judging, or without giving people a chance. It’s a real problem, I’ve noticed. Sorry you’re going through that though

Anonymous 7w

Im going to say something that might sound harsh but hear me out. A lot of ppl i’ve met who say this struggle with social cues and they don’t realize it, and that might be you. They might feel like ppl avoid them for no reason, but in reality, it might be bc they keep missing things socially. If you feel like that might be you, solution is to find ppl who are understanding and patient with you and your personality.

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Anonymous 7w

Against the background of many, many complicating factors, know that it is also, widely and generally, more difficult to make meaningful connections and lasting friendships today; especially so for men.

Anonymous

#1 7w

Could it be because i’m not a good looking person?

Anonymous

OP 7w

It could be any number of reasons, honestly. Every person has unique standards as to why they’d not want to talk to a person. So maybe, maybe not. It’d be hard to tell

Anonymous

#1 7w

The reason why I think that’s the reason is because back in high school I would be walking to class and a group of other kids or just a singular kid would laugh at me for no reason or call me names.

Anonymous

#2 7w

Yeah but if I do that, I’ll end up hanging around weirdos.

Anonymous

#2 7w

I don’t think understanding and patient people are always weirdos. It just comes down to whether or not they want to be around you despite you missing out on important social details, if you feel like you’re someone who struggles with that. Those kind of people are rare, but they’re all different. If you feel like you’re definitely fine with social cues, then the reason you feel isolated could be any number of things.

Anonymous

#2 7w

Can you give me an example of understanding social cues?

Anonymous

OP 7w

There are SO many and they depend on the situation, the culture, the language, the person you’re talking to, etc. They can be shown through facial expressions, vocal tone, body language, or something else. Everyone misses them once in a while, but some people do it over and over again. Do you want something more specific?

Anonymous

#2 7w

Yes, like a group setting or one and one convo.

Anonymous

OP 7w

This is just one really common example. oversharing, either in a group conversation or just between two people. Maybe you don’t do this, but I feel like this is a common example. The person you’re talking to is very rarely going to tell you they’re not interested, so it can be hard to know if they’re into what you’re saying or not. If they’ve said “uh-huh, wow, oh cool, nice,” or something like that too many times, they likely don’t care. THAT’S the social cue.

Anonymous

#2 7w

Yeah I definitely understand that one. That one is easy to pick up.

Anonymous

OP 7w

well this may sound rude but if people are avoiding you you're probably a weirdo too

Anonymous

#3 7w

What are some character traits that would make me a weirdo?

Anonymous

OP 7w

even just asking all of these questions is a flag that you struggle socially and should hangout with others that do too

Anonymous

#3 7w

Thank you for pointing that out cause I do that alot. I don’t really know how to continue on a conversation. Basically when I don’t know what to say I just ask questions about whatever the topic is.