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Why does it seem like once a guy has your attention, they lose all interest in getting to know you?
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Anonymous 18h

You’re going for losers

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Anonymous 17h

This is rough but it’s true; guys like to chase women and work towards earning more and more from you. When they feel they’ve earned wgat they wanted(like your affection, favor, or maybe sex) they don’t feel like there’s anything left to chase so they lose interest because there’s no thrill left for them. Not all men are like that but of courses there are losers who are too scared of commitment to stick around.

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Anonymous 17h

simple stuff. they complacent in the knowledge that they now “have” you. so they stop the pursuit and act distant

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Anonymous 17h

DENNIS method 🤫

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Anonymous 17h

I didn’t lose interest, i just got further than i thought i would and now i dont know what to do

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Anonymous 17h

Coming from a guy it seems to always be the opposite way for me like I’m talking with someone and then they just choose to stop once I finally ask them out

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Anonymous 12h

THIS JUST HAPPENED TO ME

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Anonymous 18h

This is something i realize i do myself, and it is sometimes you like to work for the attention, so if something giving you everything then what else is there to earn? i know this doesn’t make sense but that how most men work and had to get the rest of everything in life

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

lol of course im not trying 😆 But its a pattern I’ve been observing with guys I’ve been chatting with (literally right now it’s like 5/5)

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 18h

so women are just prize to be won and then tossed aside once acquired?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

No and this isn’t something that applies to just women and i never said tossed aside, Im talking about my experience it is nice to know you earned something not just given, like does a participation trophy actually feel rewarding or does 1st does? and im just answer your question because its a habit formed in men’s culture because how they are treated in society

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17h

I know you never said tossed aside… What I’m trying to say is that is how it feels when once you guys have our attention any effort stops coming. That is being tossed aside.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

I don’t think it’s you. There are plenty of shitty dudes. Some people just like the chase more than the actual connection. The right guy won’t make you feel like you have to play games to keep his interest.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17h

Being able to explain why something the way it is is one thing but actually making a change is another thing. Which one will you be?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

I understand looking back at it you were describing how it feels, what i was doing is answering your question “why does it happen”, it is a habit i have become aware of and changed since that’s why i am telling you all of this

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

It doesn’t feels good being treated that way not at all, can i ask have you turned away a guy because he liked you too much? if not then ok but it is a thing that goes both ways i can’t explain the women side but i can my pov

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 17h

Curious what was your goal? Why did you start in the first place?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 17h

What’s that?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Date them. I just don’t have much confidence in me dating. I don’t lose interest but i realize sometimes it comes across that way. Im working on getting better at it though

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16h

Happens with all genders. After things calm down he may just not like you in the way he envisioned.

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