Give her like a checklist or something

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Just tell her directly. She’s probably stressing bc she knows it’s her fault but struggled with motivation/drive to actually do that, which causes a feedback loop and more stress which makes it harder which makes the mess worse which causes more stress which makes it harder which makes the mess worse which– so offer help if you can and ask what the barriers to keeping it clean are for her (adhd? Depression? Time? No system to put things away?)

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Don’t try too hard. She has to be the one to change, you will only waste your time.

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