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Ask Anything 21w

what do I do if I have a friend that makes subtle digs at my expense and is constantly passive aggressive but everytime I try to approach her about it she acts like I’m making shit up

Anonymous 21w

cut off

Anonymous 21w

I personally would call her out on her bullshit but if you’re not a confrontational person you can also shrug it off and move on with your day. Those type of people are trying to get a reaction out of you so acting oblivious works wonders.

Anonymous 21w

Sounds like you’re being gaslit and they are super defensive and coming from someone who is defensive that’s a really difficult type of person to get through to so you’re probably better off distancing and ignoring them until you can stop living with them

Anonymous

#1 21w

we are roommates

Anonymous

OP 21w

oof idk ig in the moment there’s a comment that bothers you call her out every time

Anonymous

#1 21w

she scares me ngl

Anonymous

OP 21w

well she can probably tell and that’s probably why she keeps acting this way

Anonymous

#1 21w

very true I just don’t know how to tell her bc everytime I have she always throws it back on me and she even threatened her own life. I lowkey have just rolled over and taken it bc I’m just so over fighting about it

Anonymous

OP 21w

in my experience the way to deal with people like this is set your boundaries and maintain them calmly consistently and don’t give their efforts to upset you an outward emotional reaction

Anonymous

#1 21w

i lowkey just have been distancing a little more. We have only rlly had one like “argument” recently and I didn’t rlly react so it was like not a big deal. It’s just rlly bipolar with her sometimes. It’s hard bc ik she can be a good person but like something changed recently and idk why :( and she’s like my closest friend at UD so it’s just even more upsetting

Anonymous

#2 21w

If you really do value the friendship and think you two are close though you could try to get through to them

Anonymous

#3 21w

But also by call her out I don’t mean start a debate that will never work. You can just say something like “that’s an odd thing to say” or “what do you mean by that?” whenever she makes a passive aggressive comment. Force her to explain herself they tend to back off and say “nvm” or something.