Ask Anything on Yik Yak | half broke up with my bf of 6 months. we’re taking space. i love him but idk. no future. we want 2 diff things. we’re too different. i feel so bad for having to do this for me though. i’m lost. he deserves better and someone who’s sure about him. idk.

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half broke up with my bf of 6 months. we’re taking space. i love him but idk. no future. we want 2 diff things. we’re too different. i feel so bad for having to do this for me though. i’m lost. he deserves better and someone who’s sure about him. idk.

Anonymous 1d

I'm really sorry, this is a hard place to be and I can only imagine how stressful it's been. In my eyes, whether you think this was the right move or not depends why you decided to do this. If you felt it's best to break up because you both truly are incompatible in ways that can't be resolved, then I think it's understandable y'all broke up so hopefully you two can find people you are more compatible with (Continued later(

Anonymous 1d

what do i do….. how do i stop feeling like the biggest piece of shit enough to move forward?

Anonymous 1d

#1 is very wise and 100% correct. You gotta do what’s right for you. If you move forward with the breakup, you need to fully break up with him, not just halfway. In order to move on, you both need to know the romantic relationship is over for good. Take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy, and if you two can’t do that for each other, it’s best to move on. That doesn’t make it easy. The grief will pass, I swear<3

Anonymous

#1 1d

(Continued) if why y'all broke up is because you felt your differences makes you not worthy of the relationship, then I think you all should talk about how you're feeling and see if y'all can work together. I think these are different things and the first situation makes breaking up the right thing but if it's the latter, y'all may be able to work it out as people can overcome differences

Anonymous

#1 1d

(Continued) But no matter what you decide is best, give yourself time because breaking up with someone you love is always really hard and can take a huge toll, and don't be hard on yourself for needing time to feel everything you feel and take things a step at a time

Anonymous

#1 1d

(Continued) Also, I don't know if this helps but just know you have to make the right choice for you in the end of the day. It's sweet you care about him, and it shows you're a good person, but you never should do something you don't wanna do out of hopes of making him happy at your own expense. You deserve happiness too!

Anonymous

#1 1d

(Continued) Also definitely don't feel ashamed if you need to talk to your friends about how you're doing and to make time to see them! It's never easy to deal with things like this alone. If you don't have a therapist yet and can find one and think they'd be helpful, they can be really helpful too if you find the break up is affecting your daily life

Anonymous

#1 1d

you are amazing. thank you so much 🥺 my amazing friends have told me the same things, it’s just hard to believe them sometimes bc i know they love me for me yk . Hearing this from you, a wise stranger really helped me put this all into perspective. I am still processing everything and trying my best to separate my own self sabotage from what I really need/want. Thank you again. You are so loved and appreciated.🩷

Anonymous

#2 1d

thank you both very much 🩷 i appreciate and needed the kind words. and I agree. the last thing i want to do is hurt him more by stringing it along. it’s not fair to either of us.

Anonymous

#2 1d

Thank you so much for the kind words on my comments, and I wanna agree with everything you said! You said it very wisely and well too

Anonymous

OP 1d

Thanks for the kind words, and it is no problem at all! I was happy to comment. I'm so glad to hear your friends have been saying the same things and that you have them! I know it can be hard to believe these things, the mind can be very doubtful sometimes, but absolutely, give yourself time to think things through! Good luck, and hope things work out