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How do I tell the difference between if I’m being abused or if I’m the abuser or if we both are abusing each other?

Anonymous 8w

Have you heard of the term reactive abuse? (It’s not what it sounds like)

Anonymous 8w

Read another way; “Am I the victim or victimizer?” Logically, you are both and neither. You have not been hurt, in a definable way; and you have not injured another, in a definable way. But you have hurt yourself by obsessively imagining yourself being injured and injuring another. This makes you both the victimizer and victim - paradoxically. Read another way: You may be bipolar, switching from manic and depressive states.

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#2 8w

I have looked up reactive abuse and it makes me think that’s what’s happening especially since one other time I had made my self food that took 2 hours to make once I was done I had to quickly eat so I could go to bed for work and she said really your not going to do the dishes even though in the beginning we agreed I do trash she does dishes and her saying that threw me into a raging fit that I broke the dish washer and she kept screaming at me so I pointed some knives that I had grabbed from

Anonymous

#2 8w

The dish washer and said leave me the eff alone before I end up hurting you and she won’t stop bringing it up saying I threaten her life when really it was bad timing and her not leaving me alone

Anonymous

#3 8w

I have a pretty good control over my anger. I only lash out at my sister and I’ve only started to lash out since april. The only things that’s changed is our cousin has moved in and I have gotten my birth control taken out since then