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How do I tell my friend I want us to change our dynamic (context in image)

Anonymous 1w

Be like “hey, while our dynamic was fun and silly in the beginning, now it kind of feels… real? And that makes me uncomfortable. I would really appreciate it if we could drop all of the fake romantic stuff and just be regular friends, or find some new fun and silly (and not problematic for future us) dynamic. I’m not really comfortable with the idea of lying to our future partners about us splitting when we get with them, either

Anonymous 1w

Tell him exactly why then run …

Anonymous 1w

Update 2: I told him, he does not like me back

Anonymous 1w

Update: I mentioned to him that I liked someone and then he started trying really hard to figure out who it was, and he hasn’t, and now he’s gone silent

Anonymous

#2 1w

I feel like being honest to them and ourselves would be the best way to start a new relationship. I don’t want to trick anyone anymore.” You don’t have to specifically say it’s because you developed feelings, just say you’re uncomfortable.

Anonymous

#2 1w

I’d just like to mention, from my perspective it sounds like he’s using you as a “placeholder.” That’s gross. If you guys don’t know what you are or what y’all like to do together without the flirting, then you guys are basically dating without the security of a label. You could point that out to him if you want, too, as a way to explain your perspective

Anonymous

#2 1w

Some of the stuff he said also just feels gross to me because it almost feels like he doesn’t want anyone to “have” you unless it’s himself

Anonymous

#2 1w

1. I do really appreciate the advice, I’ll probably say something like this or just steal this entirely, because I want to talk to him either tonight or at some point this week because he wants me to visit him at work and then he’s going to take me back home after 2. Honestly it has felt that way for a couple of weeks now, because a lot of it is that it sounds like (based on what he’s said in the past) he wants us to date while being friends at the same time (and not in a “oh yeah, my partner—

Anonymous

OP 1w

—is my best friend” kind of way, especially considering that the only things we haven’t done yet is kiss, cuddle, or going all the way, and a few of the people I have told about this situation have said that it sounds like me and him are just a couple without the label 3. I have wondered if that’s how he sees me/us (as a couple without the label essentially or me being a placeholder until he finds someone) and I‘ve felt like he might have for some time now, but I never knew how to say smth

Anonymous

OP 1w

I’m glad I could help! Worst comes to worst, you’ll be out of a shitty situationship, but hopefully he wants a change, too :)

Anonymous

OP 1w

Are you ok? How did he take it?

Anonymous

#2 1w

1. I’m doing better than I expected to be, I’ll be treating myself to a self-care day tomorrow (which just means I’ll be getting a nice lunch by myself and enjoying a TWD binge once my classes are over), but I really appreciate you asking 2. But he almost seemed annoyed when I was honest with him? Because he said that he assumed that him and I were both on the same page that everything was actually platonic (because you talk about wanting to one day marry someone you’re just platonic with)