Ask Anything on Yik Yak | Is watching 🌽 in a relationship considered cheating ? I have talked to my partner about my values of porn before. I think it’s cheating. We were arguing, it got brought up, and he told me that he watches 🌽 and that he watched it last week. I was so hurt

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Is watching 🌽 in a relationship considered cheating ? I have talked to my partner about my values of porn before. I think it’s cheating. We were arguing, it got brought up, and he told me that he watches 🌽 and that he watched it last week. I was so hurt

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Anonymous 13w

I felt so betrayed. I broke down crying. I even allow him to take videos of us sexually so he has stuff like that when he needs it. But he still much rather watch other girls being f*cked. I can’t wrap my head around it. It made me feel so disgusted and disrespected. I even told him that I didn’t think I could be in a relationship where someone would blatantly disrespect me like that. But he told me that now that he fully understands my view of it, then he wouldn’t watch it anymore. And idk.

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Anonymous 13w

I don’t think watching porn is cheating personally (I’m a girl). I think sometimes you are horny and wanna take care of it and not necessarily have sex, but need some stimulation. My rule with my partner is we can each watch porn but are not allowed to go for a specific pornstar, like any type of onlyfans is cheating to me because that is lusting after that person, not being stimulated by the act you’re watching

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Anonymous 13w

Watching porn isn't cheating to me. When they actually stick their dick in a person is cheating. But you young women are mostly on one anyway

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Anonymous 13w

more importantly why are you using the corn emoji. you can say "porn" on here

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Anonymous

#1 13w

I don’t get on this app frequently. I used it more when I was in college. So, it used to not let you say porn. You wouldn’t be able to post. My bad 🙇🏼‍♀️ plus there’s a character limit

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Anonymous

#2 13w

Would you mind telling me your views on why it’s not ? I’m just curious and I want to understand. I use to watch porn a lot. But never when I’m in a relationship. I get that stimulation from my partner. So when he goes to porn and not me, I feel like I’m not doing enough. I think about it internally. Because he shouldn’t need to watch porn when he has me to do it for him.

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Anonymous

OP 13w

I did already. Ok and that's what you do. You're not them. And they're not you

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Anonymous

OP 13w

Why you're crossing over porn like your SO would ever fuck them is just silly. Some men have healthy sexual appetites. The porn is them satisfying it. Nothing more nothing less

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Anonymous

#3 13w

It may be a specific act or kink that he is being stimulated by and the girl isn’t as much the important part. Being turned on by swing a sexual act, doesn’t mean that you want to have sex with those people, it could mean that you wanna do that act with your partner. That being said, if that is a boundary you have, he should respect it.

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Anonymous

#3 13w

Seeing a sexual act*

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Anonymous

#3 13w

Awe this is a wonderful response. Thank you for taking your time to comment! I can definitely see what you’re saying. It just is something I’ve felt so deeply, and wasn’t sure if I could even change my mind about. I still have some negative feelings towards it. But maybe a little less. I guess I can just ask my questions that I need to with my partner to feel less uncomfortable. I even mentioned if he wanted to try watching it together, so I can get more comfortable with it. I dont know.

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Anonymous

OP 13w

It’s always a good idea to be really open and honest about what you’re feeling and there is no shame if it is something that you aren’t comfortable with. I just wanted to let you see a different perspective so that you don’t feel like you’re not enough for your partner

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Anonymous

#3 12w

And I really appreciate that. Thank you. 🙏

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