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how crazy would i be if i drove the 9.5 hours to go see my man? he’s been so distant the last few days and even now not answering my calls. i called 12 times tho he might be sleeping. I’m scared. I am so so scared.
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Anonymous 16w

It would be pretty crazy but I'd be lying if I said I didn't understand why you'd do it anyway

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Anonymous 16w

Well I hope he calls back but speaking from experience I bet it won't make you feel better. At some point it might be worth thinking things over because he's basically just stressing you out like this. I know it's stressful *because* you care but it can be really, really draining to be in a relationship like that, whether they're being unfaithful or not.

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Anonymous 16w

As a man i would be estatic if my girl drove 9.5 hours to see me. it is a red flag tho if he has been distant. i would recommend waiting for him to respond to something and maybe ask to call him and bring it up to him to make sure everything is okay

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Anonymous 16w

as this recently happened to me, comes to find out there was another bitch the whole time. Please be mindful.

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Anonymous 16w

Haha my ex did that and he had a whole woman on the side… be careful.

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Anonymous 16w

Yeah I think that would be crazy. From your comments it seems you guys have a good relationship so I wouldn’t worry. I know it’s stressful but sometimes things happen, just wait for him to call you back. For more context tho, what was the serious conversation about?

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Anonymous 16w

He don’t want you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

yeah i’ll ask him first. it’s just we had a serious conversation the other day that might have set us off. And also, our routine of sleeping on the phone got knocked off bc it’s the 3rd night we haven’t. but the calls have been ending 1-2 hours into it? which seems weirdly specific and then there’s no way he’s sleeping for 12 hours :(

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I know exactly how you feel with paying attention to stuff like this. And how it feels like no explanation he could give would actually get rid of the pit in your stomach. I don't blame you at all for wanting to drive there and find out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

yeah :( it’s just i’d have to get off work for a week and then drive that far. I think rn all i really need is for him to just call me back

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

maybe he is asleep for a long time and maybe his body is just extremely exhausted

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

this was supposed to be a reply to our other convo whoops

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

well he’s not the type tbh but i have a past of being cheated on so im always careful

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I had a past of being cheated on too… any man is the type. I swear to it. I’m sorry you gotta go through that queen

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Tbh sleeping on the phone is hella annoying and that’s prolly why he don’t wanna answer your calls

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16w

Give him his space

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16w

i give him his space. i’m busy 8am-9:30 working. sometimes that’s the only time we have. I ask him if he wants to still and if he likes it and he said yes. Majority of the time he CALLS ME to sleep and CALLS ME back. just these last few days he’s been off. he said he’s just been feeling unwell.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Well maybe just talk to him and see what’s going on and how he feels. Don’t give him any pressure.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16w

thank you i will i was just upset earlier when i made this post. when he gets back ill just be there when he wants me and give him space

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

i am trust me but i don’t think he is

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

i did thank you. he just said that his mental and physical well being has been in the dumps. he just went to the gym and when he comes back i’ll reassure him that if he needs anything from me to let me know. I would drive if he needed me too!! But i am for sure in july coming to see him for two weeks!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 16w

if that was the case i gave him every opportunity to leave.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 16w

and he wouldn’t use his ONLY pto to spend time w me.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I swear none of that means anything…if he’s not driving to see you and he’s being distant…he doesn’t want you

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 16w

he has drove to see me. he’s in the military they can’t drive more than 8 hours away without approval first.

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 16w

he’s being distant but still present.

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