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How are people finding their people so fast😭 I’m a freshman and I don’t know what I’m doing. On top of that I’m having a shit time finding my people are even meeting people. It’s always so awkward and I’m already so bad with meeting new people😭
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Anonymous 2w

I think it’s harder for more people than you think. There are people who find people fast, but often it takes time

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Anonymous 2w

Maybe you should kill the part of you that feels awkward in situations where you don't know what to say. The world goes round even when your not apart of it that's just physics. How are you gonna cringe at a part of you that's just due to simple misunderstandings?

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Anonymous 2w

I mean no disrespect, but if you can’t find a way to push past the anxiety and stress, so you can do the things you need to do to meet people, then you’re going to struggle with it until you can. I’ve also struggled with social anxiety my whole life, but I’ve learned that you can’t expect people to just fall into your life. It’s up to you to make it happen. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s essential to do.

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Anonymous 2w

The best advice for dealing with the anxiety of meeting new people is to look up some conversation starters or read some books about communication. Anytime you run into someone willing to speak with you then you’ve run into an opportunity to grow. We all trip over our words and stutter. Don’t let that beat you down.

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Anonymous 2w

just talk to anyone and don't worry about what it leads to. if its meant to be you'll make time for each other and reach out often

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Anonymous 2w

Don’t go looking for your person. Coming from someone who thought they found their person fast. I quickly realized it’s not all peaches and rainbows and these dudes are rlly not worth the stress while in college. Unfortunately I tried to settle down quick and am stuck in a 14mo lease. Don’t be like me. I hate it here😹😹💔😹😹😹😹💔😹😹

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Anonymous 2w

Finding someone to hang with cause it’s convenient and finding YOUR PEOPLE aren’t the same. There’s not a right or wrong way and of them are gonna have drama and fall outs within weeks lol.

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Anonymous 2w

give yourself grace! it takes time. I’d recommend joining an org

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Don't worry bout shit you can't control type shii

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Thanks. I needed that

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

I hope so, I’d love to be able to find my people so I can get out there and do all the fun stuff. With my anxiety it’s hard to go to things by myself.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

And yeah you should work on meeting people first

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

When I moved to a new city a few hours from my home town I knew I’d struggle so bad with meeting people. Work friends are a great start to learning to speak w new people. It can be an obligation to speak to others and a chance to truly be you without outside opinions of what they might’ve heard abt you. This way you are fully yourself. When someone mentions a hobby, ask a follow up question. “Oh you like to paint? How long have you done that for? Do you have any works I can see or a fav?”

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Repeating back what you heard shows the other person that you’re not only listening, but are genuinely interested in what they have to say and are willing to learn more about it & them. You both walk away feeling good. They feel heard and you’ll feel accomplished for taking that step forward.

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