
What OP said. There’s absolutely nuance here about how those who do use it as an insult are further the negative effect the patriarchy has on men, but also. I can say as my own example I do not give a fuck. Guys have mouths and fingers, I have toys, I wouldn’t get off from a big dick anyway. It’s about what you do with what you have and how you address the situation. I’d rather have a guy with a 1 inch who’s good with his other “assets” than a 6 inch who doesn’t know wtf he’s doing 1/2
That being said the weight society has put on dick size as a monolith of any man’s worth as a person is horrendous, and that pressure comes from both ends. IMO, if pleasing a woman otherwise wasn’t so taboo then women would care less, and because those men can then have sex regardless of size, men care less too (ability to “get with” women is often another stupid indication of a guys worth, set by other guys) it’s a stupid but serious issue from all angles.