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Ask Anything 14w

Am I crazy for getting annoyed whee someone I know asks “do you hate me? I feel like you’re mad,” constantly? I get being anxious but damn

Anonymous 14w

i had a friend like this it was exhausting so i stopped talking to her. prob not what you wanna hear but it’s a big relief not feeling like you’re walking on egg shells all the time

Anonymous 14w

do you act like you hate them tho? cuz i had a friend who was mad every time i visited her for reasons that had nothing to do with me and i thought she was always mad at me personally, when i’m mad about a situation, i’ll either save my anger for later or i’ll vent to my friends. whenever i hung out with that friend and she 1) behaved like she was angry and 2) didn’t tell me why, i would assume i was the problem eventually we stopped talking and this is a huge reason why

Anonymous 14w

You’re not crazy at all, it’s exhausting to have your friendship and loyalty constantly questioned despite multiple reassurances, I get that people have emotional issues but that’s their job to figure out and heal from, not yours to constantly deal with

Anonymous 14w

Not to armchair psychologist but does your friend have some known mental condition that might be related to this? Because OCD, ADHD, and BPD all really commonly result in people having intense fear their friends don’t like them or are mad at them. I ask because especially in the case of OCD, no amount of reassurance makes it better. It’s compulsive. It’s something they’ll have to learn to manage for themselves and you’re not crazy for getting annoyed

Anonymous 14w

If it’s multiple friends keep asking you that, you’re the problem. If there’s one or two problematic ones they’re prolly the problem

Anonymous 14w

I have a friend that gets like this but only when they’re drunk. It gets kinda annoying but ik it’s just their insecurities

Anonymous

#1 14w

No. Sometimes it’s totally random. Like, they will just text me and say they’re in a bad head space and they need reassurance on our friendship because they feel like I hate them or bc we haven’t hung out in a bit.

Anonymous

#1 14w

Like, I wasn’t able to respond to one of those messages one time and it ended up with them calling me through discord or my phone number and then kinda spamming.

Anonymous

OP 14w

oh man, atp i think i’d just pin a message in your dms that says something like “before you ask if i hate you, i don’t” or an image like this

Anonymous

#1 14w

We were hanging out last week and talking about something sensitive. I prob got asked the question like 3-4 times.

Anonymous

OP 14w

idk man there’s no easy solution here

Anonymous

#5 14w

Just one.

Anonymous

#5 14w

Most friends of mine overthink like this because I use punctuation. That’s the only concern I’ve received from friends.

Anonymous

OP 14w

If your friends haven’t gotten used to your texting style and need constant reassurance because of that, they need to find outlets for their feelings. For example, I have really bad trust issues and depression, but I started writing daily a few years ago to improve my mental state. I still get worried that my friends hate me every now and then (especially because some of them actually did LMAO), but I’ve learned to take accountability for my feelings and I understand my friends’ different …

Anonymous

#6 14w

Texting styles. If my friends have done actions that have hurt me and made me feel like they hate me, I talk to them about it and everything gets cleared up! It sounds like your friend is unintentionally (or maybe intentionally, idk them) making their feelings your issue, and you should probably talk to them about it. You could be like “hey, I understand that you need reassurance, but you’re consistently making me feel like I have to defend myself because of your (insecurities?). It’s draining,

Anonymous

#6 14w

and I’d like it if we could work together on a solution that’ll make both of us happy and confident in our friendship.” And if they refuse or never change, drop them. You shouldn’t have to take responsibility for their insecurities

Anonymous

OP 14w

spamming and calling just because you didn’t respond in time to one thing is not healthy