Ask Anything on Yik Yak | Is it bad to leave my bf of 5 years because he has exponentially gained weight and is not losing any? When I met him we were both normal (bmi) but now im thesame and he’s morbidly obese. I’m just scared to be called shallow, I mean it’s 5 whole years gone

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Is it bad to leave my bf of 5 years because he has exponentially gained weight and is not losing any? When I met him we were both normal (bmi) but now im thesame and he’s morbidly obese. I’m just scared to be called shallow, I mean it’s 5 whole years gone

Anonymous 12w

Honestly, that is very shallow. That should not be a determining factor to leave someone. If that really is the case, he deserves more than you. You should love someone more than looks, when you guys get old, you won’t look like you did when you were 20 and what you are left with is their character

Anonymous 12w

Honestly I would very honestly talk about it and try to help him. But it’s not shallow if it’s unnatural and scared for his long term health, I would be too

Anonymous 12w

No it's not bad. Especially if you're no longer attracted to them anymore. And also if you've hinted at your ass is fat can you please lose some weight. If you wanted to be with someone fat you would be. It's not even cool that he let himself go like that. Men leave and cheat on women all the time over this. Women can have these same feelings too

Anonymous 12w

Just had my ex left me because of something like this. Kinda kills me. Very selfish. After 5 months now I’ve lost 30 lbs. I think it’s selfish, partner should help you not leave you to starve.

Anonymous 12w

no, he’s checked himself out because he thinks you will never break up with him

Anonymous

#1 12w

how are we gonna get old if he alr has diabetes and has had heart attack scares (all this after getting into a relationship). genuinely not worried about his looks It’s more about his actual health because being that obese comes with actual consequences :(

Anonymous

OP 12w

I would talk to him about it then instead of just breaking it off. Because that is stressful to watch someone go through that, but also on the flip side - through sickness and health

Anonymous

#1 12w

you’re so right through sickness and health, plus 5 whole years like this man was my entire college life

Anonymous

#2 12w

How do I approach it though cos I feel like he might take it the wrong way cos he is lifting like he’s trying his best it’s j the weight isn’t coming off cos he isn’t doing cardio. I’m a medical student, he’s a driver it just hurts that he keeps ignoring my advice

Anonymous

OP 12w

When my college boyfriend and I broke up and I was destroyed so I get that. It was more than a break up, I lost my best friend

Anonymous

OP 12w

Help him make sure he diets, weight is a very simple equation of calories in calories out, as long as he eats less he’ll be ok