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how to tell my friend shes actually not the victim and shes gaslighting and emotionally abusing her (now ex) boyfriend bc shes a narcissist

Anonymous 5w

Is there even a way to do this? I am dealing with a friend in this situation right now and it’s draining me. I just set a boundary and said “you know how I feel about this, and I don’t have the emotional energy to talk about the same problems all the time” it was blunt but verbatim the same thing I was told by my friend in high school. It hurt me at first, but I grew so much because of it. You’re not obligated to help your friend, but you’re not helping her if you don’t tell her the hard truth.

Anonymous 5w

She was probably fun until her true self came out

Anonymous

#2 5w

Expect her to be pissed if you go this route. She will be unhappy either way if it’s at you or at the guy. You’re not in the wrong. I’d speak my mind and let it simmer.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Furthermore, question for you OP. Do you want a friend like that? I mean if that’s how she treats others, I’d almost take it as a red flag- that she could switch up at me at any given point. Protect yourself, your energy and emotional state are so important

Anonymous

#2 5w

i’ve gotten to the point where shes basically not a part of my life anymore, shes someone i rarely speak to. she only reaches out to me to complain and get sympathy but never once asks how i am. i just moreso feel bad for him because i KNOW how he feels, shes said and done the exact same shit to me.

Anonymous

#1 5w

she was, shes a very covert narcissist and everyone ADORES her until youre like… her close close companions. it sucks :/ bc how do u convince like a ton of people she IS the problem?

Anonymous

OP 5w

I’m so glad I’m not the only one feeling this way right now. Like I feel like I’m always supposed to side with my friends, but I can’t when they’re wrong all the fucking time. Am I bad for having my bf reach out to her ex to see if he’s doing okay?

Anonymous

#2 5w

honestly i might reach out to him. shes done it to her other ex too!! its CRAZY how she vicitmizes herself and deflects, she keeps calling him emotionally abusive but really? i don’t think so..