Ask Anything on Yik Yak | My bf says that he is constantly scared of me yelling at him and that I’m mean to him. I told him that I think we need to break up like I don’t want him to be in a relationship with me if I’m this big bad wolf and he said he still wants to be with me I’m

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My bf says that he is constantly scared of me yelling at him and that I’m mean to him. I told him that I think we need to break up like I don’t want him to be in a relationship with me if I’m this big bad wolf and he said he still wants to be with me I’m

Anonymous 11w

If you have to take this issue to an online forum airing out your business you might need to revaluate if you are actually a big bad wolf.

Anonymous 11w

I think he’s also conflicted too, he might not be breaking up because he’s scared of being alone. I know some people who stayed together when it was obvious they weren’t compatible. I say you should breakup for the best of both of you and both can improve from this.

Anonymous 11w

I personally think yelling has no place in a healthy relationship. Maybe reevaluate how y’all communicate. I am also a no BS person, and I have had people tell me I’m mean, but my husband and I have learned to communicate very calmly and effectively with a lil work

Anonymous 11w

So conflicted because I genuinely don’t think I’m mean I think I set boundaries and I don’t put up with his shit and it’s just like what do I do. He doesn’t want to end things but I’m also this mean scary partner and I don’t want him to stay with me if he’s afraid of me.

Anonymous 11w

There is mean way to set boundaries and I’ve found that a lot of people that “don’t put up with shit” use it as an excuse to be a really mean person. I think you need to acknowledge his feelings and how he might feel that way.. because there is a kind way to set boundaries and not be a pushover. And that doesn’t sound like what you are doing

Anonymous 11w

Have you considered not being verbally abusive to him??? This is a situation YOU created, YOU fix it, don’t punish him for YOUR shortcomings

Anonymous 11w

Likes**** dick

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Anonymous

#1 11w

Top 10 projection moments of 2025

Anonymous

#5 11w

🫡clock it

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Anonymous

#5 11w

Clocked

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Anonymous

#1 11w

I don’t understand your lingo

Anonymous

#5 11w

Learn it

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Anonymous

#1 11w

What color are you

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Anonymous

#5 11w

Cracker

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Anonymous

#5 11w

Pasty white just kidding I’d hate to be that…

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Anonymous

#5 11w

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Anonymous

#1 11w

So you are a minority

Anonymous

#5 11w

I’m not a cracker

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Anonymous

#1 11w

yh girl we can tell

Anonymous

#3 11w

🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous

#5 11w

It’s an anonymous forum. How does this make me a big bag wolf? This post has no identifiable information so I’m not embarrassing anyone and I’m not speaking ill of my bf. I legit just wanted advice on what I should do.

Anonymous

OP 11w

Do you not have friends, family, or real life mentors. I don’t see how asking the opinions of strangers who can say anonymously their opinions is a good idea

Anonymous

#1 11w

Gross minority with foul language and unintelligible lingo.

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Anonymous

#5 11w

Strangers aren’t biased. I know that if I ask family or friends they’re going to agree with whatever I say/think or they’re going to bring up things that don’t pertain to the situation (I know that’s ironic to say because of the random homophobia on this post) for the most part I get non biased responses that actually help (I asked for advice a few weeks ago about how to address an issue with my parents)

Anonymous

#6 11w

I understand what you are saying. I think a major issue for me is that my bf and I have two very different definitions of being “kind” and “mean”. It’s like sometimes hurt his feelings and I acknowledge when I do it and I apologize for it and sometimes he’ll hurt my feelings vice versa but I don’t think either of us intend to do so. Like does that make sense.

Anonymous

OP 11w

Strangers also don’t have wants in your best interest and like to troll. So I would trust family and friends over random strangers. If u want a non biased professional opinion seek a therapist or counselor

Anonymous

OP 11w

Yeah, that makes sense. I think it’d be worth having a conversation with him about those things- like what he sees as being kind vs being mean. Cause even if it isn’t how you intend it(and vice versa for him), it doesn’t change the impact that words/actions have on the other

Anonymous

OP 11w

I’m gonna make this plain and simple. He is trying to manipulate you. You set boundaries and punt him in his place and that’s “mean” to him. He’s afraid you will yell at him? He’s afraid you’re gonna react to his disrespect. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Am I making any sense?? He’s also gonna end up cheating if he hasn’t already and then blame you for it because you’re “so mean”🙄 I suggest you leave him, you’re gonna be going in circles with him.

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Anonymous

#8 11w

Idk what you went through but all I see is major projection and unresolved issues in what you wrote. Where does cheating ever come into play in this? I’m not gonna say that this isn’t what’s happening BUT it is very bold of you to make that assumption like it’s concrete gospel.

Anonymous

#6 11w

No projection, no unresolved issues. I’m just able to see through people’s bs. I don’t care what you think this is not towards you it’s for the OP.

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Anonymous

#1 11w

This bitch is just talking to herself atp 😭

Anonymous

#8 11w

Okay, well you are also capable of being wrong, just like me or anyone else in this chat. *I’m not saying you are wrong* but if you can’t acknowledge that possibility, than that’s a you problem.

Anonymous

#6 11w

Again, I wasn’t talking to you.

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Anonymous

#8 11w

OP. This is the kinda people I’m talking about when I say don’t ask strangers lmao.

Anonymous

OP 11w

Leave it’s probably him trying to manipulate you

Anonymous

OP 11w

Do you yell at him? If not he's just saying that so you'll ease up on your boundaries.

Anonymous

OP 11w

The problem with y’all verbally abusive people is that you’ll never admit you’re abusive. Idk what boundaries you’ve set, but in my experience abusers LOVE to set “boundaries” that are really just an excuse to manipulate and control someone and their behavior. This man is walking on eggshells constantly. You need to step back and realize that he’s legitimately TRAUMATIZED from your relationship. Really let that sink in, you fucking TRAUMATIZED him. Get your shit together or leave so he can heal

Anonymous

#8 11w

Crazy how you claim to see through people’s bs but are totally blind to the very obvious fact that OP’s the abusive one and is trying to feign ignorance

Anonymous

#10 11w

That’s the thing I don’t verbally abuse him, I don’t call him out his name, I don’t say things that I know would hurt his feelings and I don’t degrade him. I will admit I do yell when I get frustrated with him for doing something I constantly ask him not do. Like for example our bed he gets in with his work clothes or his work out clothes. I’ve asked him several times not to do it and he will constantly do it. Yesterday he did it twice once with his work clothes and the other time with his work

Anonymous

OP 11w

Our clothes the first time I was calm and I literally said “hey I know your tired but can you please take off your uniform” and he did but later when he came in from running he jumped on the bed and I did yell I said “hey your are sweaty and I can literally see dirt on your back get off the bed” and ik I shouldn’t have yelled but I don’t see that as me being verbally abusive and that’s how most of me yelling goes it’s never out of malice it’s out of frustration.

Anonymous

OP 11w

And the hard boundaries I set are boundaries with myself like for example I don’t like being touched when I’m getting out of the shower or naked it makes me feel icky but he will constantly come up to me and try to give me hug or rub my back and I will tell him to stop or get off. Whenever I do that he’ll say “I’m sorry I just want some love I love you and I find you very attractive you make me feel like you hate me” or he’ll say “why are you so mean to me” and it’s like I just don’t like

Anonymous

OP 11w

It because he didn’t want to give me hug or kiss when I was clothed why do feel so inclined to do it now. So I don’t think the boundaries I set are me being manipulative or trying to control the situation. I know that whole rant was me mentioning the things I don’t like but it’s just hard for me to distinguish what I should do because like stated in my OP he says he wants to stay in the relationship but I don’t want him to stay with me if I’m make him feel that way but I also don’t think I’m

Anonymous

OP 11w

This mean partner so I don’t know how to change in order to make him not scared of me

Anonymous

OP 11w

I also mentioned this in other comments bit I think it should also be mentioned in this thread as well sometimes I will hurt his feelings sometimes unknowingly and when I do I always apologize vice versa. It’s normally when I’m making what I think is a joke but it’s something that bothers him. When I see it hurts him I talk with him about it and I don’t bring up the content of the joke again.

Anonymous

#6 11w

We’re both off today so I’m going to have a conversation with him during lunch.