Anonymous wing_leader 1w

So I told her that I was interested because she actually has relatives near where I live. I asked her if she was into Asian men. Said she’s crushed on a few then asked me if I was into white girls

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Anonymous wing_leader 1w

And she was my age too. Why do I even try? This is why I hate optimism and getting my hopes up. I have my reasons

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Anonymous OP 1w

Hm, I’m guessing it was online? Sometimes people feel pressured when it feels too real. Don’t ever put yourself in a position where you’re always waiting to hear from the other person. It should be easy if someone wants you. Godspeed.

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Anonymous wing_leader 1w

Well she initiated

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Anonymous OP 1w

Even if she initiated. Don’t ever let someone make you feel that you’re waiting on them to continue the relationship you may be building. Anyone can text “I’m busy but when I’m available I’ll message you back” or “I am unable to tell you how I feel about this, let me think it over and get back to you.”

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Anonymous wing_leader 1w

That’s fair. I don’t expect anything from anyone anymore.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Don’t give up because of this experience. If you can conquer being happy alone and can want someone but not need someone in your life. Everything will feel different. It’s something I’ve personally worked on and the wiring of my brain feels way different.

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Anonymous wing_leader 1w

I’m not giving up or anything. I’m fine being alone honestly with the empty void in my soul. It is what it is. I’m neither happy nor sad.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Well, that’s not what I mean. It’s an on going battle for myself sometimes. Inner peace is not easy to fine, and your biggest critic will always be yourself. Be kind to yourself. If you really like this girl, wait and see what happens. Always remember your worth. Godspeed

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Anonymous wing_leader 1w

So many people have told me that I am too harsh on myself. I have high standards and I don’t meet them, I feel bad about myself. I know what I’m capable of. I just need to work harder. It’s just wired in my brain. I’ve done it since I was a kid

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Anonymous OP 1w

Although it is great to push yourself to exceed expectations, it is not healthy nor an accomplishment to push yourself so far that you can’t see your own worth. You gotta take a break and look back at all your success and congratulate your failures because now you know there is a different way to reach success. You’re gonna fall throughout life, and when you do fall, fall on your back because if you can look up, you can get up.

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Anonymous wing_leader 1w

You’re totally right on that. I need to stop stress testing my brain

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