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advice on telling a partner about sa? (only doing this cause very recently i wasn't able to surpress my reaction to a trigger and he got worried and stuff)

Anonymous 1w

Be upfront about it during a non sexual time. Tell him it’s important, you don’t want to make it a big deal or go into depth, you just want him to be aware of your triggers & the trauma that it caused. Then tell him you don’t really want to discuss it again unless YOU bring it up at a time that you’re ready to discuss it & that you may never want or need to discuss it in depth with him.

Anonymous

#1 1w

Also , I’m not saying that you do, but please don’t feel guilty about your reaction to being triggered. It’s not your fault. What has helped me move past my biggest trigger (guys rubbing my arm or leg) was remembering that I liked that sensation before a piece of shit violated me, so I can like it again. Meaning I don’t associate it with him. I instead remember the times before where I liked it and then I focus on it being the man I love touching me in an intimate & loving way. It really helped!

Anonymous

#1 1w

what upsets me about not being able to was i was so good at it before. i had been with guys had sex and they'd been none the wiser to other stuff. then i dated this one guy and started to trust him and open up about stuff but i did that too fast and it was too much for him and we broke up (and this is my first relationship since then) and i was originally thinking that id just go back to the way things were but then this happened cause ig i softened up a bit