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Is it normal to not have many friends? I’m coming up on my 21st birthday celebration and I only found like 6 people total to invite and it feels so small but have i just been tricked into thinking everyone has an extremely large circle?
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Anonymous 1d

I have a pretty big group of friends but most ppl don’t. As u get older the number dwindles. Also what u qualify a friend and other ppl may not be the same. Some ppl have a higher barrier of entry for friendship

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Anonymous 1d

You can invite me if you want

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Anonymous 1d

I honestly just don’t celebrate it, not cause ion have friends but it’s just another day to me fr might grab a drink with the boys or if my gf around dinner but that’s it

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Anonymous 1d

I celebrated my 21st with my family bc I didn’t have friends to celebrate with lol

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Anonymous 1d

I’m going to be honest. I’d MUCH rather have 3-5 close friends than 20 acquaintances. The number of people you’re friends with doesn’t matter. It’s about the quality of who you chose to spend your time with

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Anonymous 10h

Oh I’d have a BLASSST, 6 friends are the BEST for group pictures because you can be RIGHT in the center as the birthday boy/girl. And if you need a second they can all entertain themselves. You should go out! (Maybe rent the top of a bar and just chill there with your friends and take pics?) and HAVE FUN!! You’re 21 YESSS

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Anonymous 1d

yea i celebrated my 21st w my brothers because i wouldn’t have had friends to do anything with anyways, but i wouldn’t change a thing about that night, i had so much fun with my brothers 🤗

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Anonymous 1d

well, imagine this. you have a large friend group, roughly 20 or so people. but half of them are just part of the group and not really YOUR friends. half of the 10 that are actually your friends talk about you behind your back. 2 others of those 10 are only friends with you because they feel a sense of obligation and/or belonging being friends with you. therefore, you have 3 actual friends.

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 1d

This is the best comment.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

That’s been like my last couple birthdays

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Ok we’re swimming and having piña coladas and taco salad and then we’re going for margs

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Sounds fun. I’m in.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

not saying this is necessarily a common experience, but it’s also not rare in large friend groups. i’ve ALWAYS said that quality matters WAY MORE than quantity when it comes to friends. if those 6 friends feel like valued members of your life and they value you the same, i, personally, would be perfectly content with that!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1d

Me too

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

to add on, i was able to come up with 8 possible bridesmaids for my future wedding, 2 of them being family members. and those are literally like all of my friends. i mean i have a few other long distance/online friends that i would LOVE to have attend my wedding if they can make it, but every single in person friend of mine will be in my wedding party (if they accept ofc)

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

If I lived somewhere where I could just go out and grab a drink with friends on any night it might not feel like such a big deal to me but sadly…farm

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

Thank you for this ❤️

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