
First, consider leaving; do not let a position restrain you if it no longer fits, particularly when it harms your mental and physical health. Prioritize yourself, since they clearly do not value you there, and you need not value them in return—it works both ways. Second, do you have another role ready that you can begin?
I know 🫠 it’s an on campus position that I have right now that I used to adore. But management changed and now I’m constantly being fussed at for minor things and I feel like no one takes me seriously. I feel infantilized sometimes. I’ve been the most responsible employee there for the past three years. I say one bad thing about management that’s taken out of context and now they legitimately won’t leave me alone and keep pulling me into the main office to “talk”— I.e be fussed at 😭
I took the whole day off because I am exhausted and deserve a fucking break. I work my ass off all the damn time and I don’t need to kill myself for a job that has begun to disrespect me. It allows me breathing room to go to the appointment (I have sever anxiety about doctors and must prepare especially when it’s about a potential chronic illness or mental illness) and get other stuff done. My entire life shouldn’t revolve around my job. It used to. No more.
I have communicated that. This is a part time position that I’ve been working since my freshman year of college. It’s my first employment ever and of course I’m still figuring out the kinks. And I have told them. They respond that I must “look on the bright side” and only “think five minutes ahead” which is frankly condescending and unhelpful. And you’re very judgy for a person who doesn’t have all the information.
I’m not responding to the judgy comment. You’d be wise to work out these kinks before you hit the real world. In the real world you likely would be fired - and what you took as condescension what a system created to protect itself from HR-related claims looks like. It was a professional warning of sorts. IMO, you should find some content on IG on how to navigate HR / corp structures and use this job as practice. Best of luck.
Truthfully I feel like they have only begun to have an issue with me once I’ve set boundaries in place for work life balance. You know little about my experience, about my life. I know for a fact I do my job well. Yes I have some kinks to work out but I don’t need the condescending attitude and the “I know better than you so let me educate you” mentality. I’m aware I still have things to work on: one of them being work life balance. I have almost killed myself semester after semester working.
But now that I’ve begun to make sure I’m ok to work; that I have the accommodations or resources I need— I’m a problem? I’ve been one of the best employees they’ve ever had— and they’re losing someone who is a great writing coach because they don’t wanna work with me to get those accommodations. I know I’m not special, but the management change and the subsequent dismissal of myself isn’t going to work for me.
Given that you're young and this is your first job - all things you've admitted btw - you should seek out content on how to navigate. There is an HR friendly way to set boundaries. I'm not saying you did or did not do it that way, but you're experiencing friction because of your actions. Also, fwiw, if what you deserve falls short of what the company expects you'll find yourself in the situation you're in now. Why? Capitalism. They know there's always someone who will do your job for less.