Ask Anything on Yik Yak | So I broke up with my gf of 4 years due to me not having feelings anymore. I was so separated while with her and called it off. It’s now been 2 months and I’m heard she’s been talking to other guys (which logically makes sense) but (see more in comments)

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So I broke up with my gf of 4 years due to me not having feelings anymore. I was so separated while with her and called it off. It’s now been 2 months and I’m heard she’s been talking to other guys (which logically makes sense) but (see more in comments)

Anonymous 5w

Buddy YOU are the one who ended it. Sometimes you only realize you love them when you let them go.

Anonymous 5w

The decision is done and you have to move forward down a new path. The regret is coming from the realization that she can out date you as a newly single person. The hard truth is, when you start to try to date, you’re gonna have a hard time whereas she’s gonna have an easy time finding dates. In the long run you’ll be alright but you have to put work

Anonymous 5w

Just move on atp and let her go. Even if you get back together I doubt you’ll be okay knowing that she’s been dating and possibly sleeping with other guys while you were broken up

Anonymous 5w

You ended it with her, you need to move on like she did. You probably hurt her a lot, going back and putting both of you in that cycle again is terrible.

Anonymous 5w

I'm gonna be honest brother, I just broke up with my girl of 4 years 2 weeks ago. I initiated it just like you. DM me if you wanna talk it out.

Anonymous 5w

I know exactly what your going through, I had the same thing happen to me. I was with a guy for 2 years I started to not see it going anywhere and it didn’t feel like we were on the same path for our future. Now this was towards the end of junior year of high school but we were great for a while then we stopped going out as much and I wasn’t feeling it anymore so I ended it. We stayed friends for a few months after then I decided I couldn’t keep being just friends cause I was never going to move

Anonymous 5w

You bought this ticket for this ride.

Anonymous 5w

She should no longer be your concern buddy

Anonymous 5w

You broke up with her for a reason. Maybe she misses you or maybe she dosent, but if she’s seeing someone else you need to allow her to explore that. You probably assumed she would continue to pine and your ego is bruised. No shame in that we’re human, but if you loved her take a step back. If it’s meant to be you’ll come back together.

Anonymous 5w

But it’s really been messing with me. I’ve been back and forth between regretting my decision and talking things through instead of breaking up or being satisfied in my decision. I’ve come close to reaching out to her but I don’t think I can do it since the breakup is really only hitting me now and I don’t want to get back into it and feel the same as I did before. A little more background is just that our relationship seemed dull and we’d just sit around while together. I think she had some

Anonymous

OP 5w

Things she needs to work on by herself and didn’t really try to tell me ab it while together (or didn’t realize it). She was on anxiety meds and it seemed to have changed her. I can’t see myself with any other girl and have made no attempts at any. Just don’t know what I should do

Anonymous

#1 5w

The thing is that we were so good together. And in my past relationships I’ve never imagined getting back together with them but now for some reason it’s just on my mind. I’ve never had anxiety or a lot of stress before and I can’t really eat or sleep. I know she still misses me too because she checks my location on snap and shit. Obv I do the same…

Anonymous

OP 5w

sitting around while together isn't always a bad thing. sometimes two people are so comfortable around each other they don't have to be doing anything around each other to be happy. But you'd know better than an anyone if that's exactly what you were feeling or not.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Also love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a commitment and I believe that is what you are learning right now. Sparks will come and go but staying committed to one person is something so truly special

Anonymous

OP 5w

There is a small chance to rekindle something since it’s fresh but you have to be sure about it. Reevaluate why you let her go bro bc you could get back together but then get the same feelings all over again. Also you have to be ok with the high likelihood that she’s been with multiple men

Anonymous

#2 5w

i agree, and to double down a big problem nowadays is people think a relationship has to be this, wild constantly fun filled thing, when in reality there will be major ups and downs. Instead of giving up, just stick it out. look into her eyes and think shot all the reasons you guys got together in the first place. All the beautiful memories you two share. A real relationship is beautiful, and hard to come by these days, so cherish it.

Anonymous

#3 5w

also there is a clear difference between it obviously not working out/bad relationship and just a dull, spark has dimmed, moment in relationship. The difference is in one the spark has completely gone out, in the other the spark just needs a little time, gentle and loving care, and attention, and you'll see it reignite like it was before, if not brighter.

Anonymous

#5 5w

On but then end of senior year I found out he had a girl friend and started feeling things again but wasn’t going to reach out since he did have someone. Part way into the summer I was in the hospital for a day and he found out and reached out to see how I was doing, we started talking more after that and he broke up with her (not because of me just because he didn’t feel it with her) and we went out for like 2 weeks towards the end of the summer and I realized it was going to be the same as bef

Anonymous

#5 5w

As before. So we are now just good friends and talk all the time but both have a mutual agreement that we aren’t meant to be together.. moral of the story if you felt that way once it’ll be hard to get over her at first and your going to want to go back but if you felt that way once it’ll probably end up the same again

Anonymous

#1 5w

Fuck

Anonymous

#3 5w

Just to clarify it wasn’t just because it was dull…it was that but it resulted from other things that I couldn’t really seem to help with

Anonymous

#6 5w

Bruh, it’s more than that. You don’t understand

Anonymous

#3 5w

I know I know. But I like going out and doing things or even taking a drive and she never wanted to do them as we went on

Anonymous

#5 5w

Thank you for telling me that. I honestly think the same thing would happen w me

Anonymous

OP 5w

Yes I feel like it would be like that for most people as well… it’s always going to be hard to see them with someone else but if it didn’t feel right the first time it’s not going to change the second or any time after

Anonymous

#5 5w

I now have a great friendship with my ex and we are honestly each others biggest supporters and are both still single but try and help eachother out to get with others lol

Anonymous

#7 5w

Gah…so true

Anonymous

OP 5w

I could sum it up pretty easily. You broke up because you got bored and lost feelings, and then she moved on or atleast is trying to and you feel bad. I get it because everyone in their life regrets a breakup including me

Anonymous

#6 5w

I broke up with her because I starting losing feelings after she started showing less and less interest in me. Starting putting in less effort and did share in my interests. I wasn’t bored

Anonymous

OP 5w

Since you were the one who ended it (the dumper) you felt some sort of relief at first and now 2 months later the breakups hitting you which is your brains way of saying its time to heal and move on. For her the breakup hit as soon as it happened so now 2 months she’s moved on. Sometimes the person who got dumped moves on faster since they needed to heal right when the breakup happened.

Anonymous

#7 5w

True true

Anonymous

OP 5w

This is exactly the same as me too… I posted the long story above… but he stopped taking me on dates and when we did go out I planned and paid which no problem I don’t expect the guy to pay for every date every time but he did nothing and would cancel on me and not care so him taking another girl out and giving her what I wanted hurt and made the jealousy kick in a little which is what ur feeling

Anonymous

#5 5w

So you think i shouldn’t get back w her?

Anonymous

OP 5w

No don’t, you broke up for a reason. No one said it’s easy, letting go of things that aren’t right for you still hurt. But remember your reasoning for it and stick with it.

Anonymous

#8 5w

Gotcha. Thank you

Anonymous

#8 5w

I totally understand. The thing is since I’m back and forth on reaching out again or not I said I’d give myself a month and then reevaluate myself and see if I still want to. Do you think that’s realistic

Anonymous

OP 5w

Yes! Give yourself AT LEAST a month to figure it out. It’s okay to still love someone and let them go, I did it with my ex a while back too. We dated for 8 years, he started pulling away and I went through hell having to break it off. But if I didn’t give myself time to heal myself, figure out what I want from a relationship and why I did it, ( not letting jealousy blind me ) which was not easy, I wouldn’t be in the best relationship now and the best version of myself 😊

Anonymous

#8 5w

You’re actually so awesome. Thank you so much

Anonymous

OP 5w

Of course!! Reach out if you need anything, I know how hard this can be but you asking questions and taking advice means you are doing the right steps!

Anonymous

#9 5w

Why? And I’m not saying she should be, I’m just curious

Anonymous

OP 5w

You probably broke her heart because you never considered her feelings you was selfish for that so now that you dumb her let her be it could be her way of getting over you, you’ll never know unless it was meant to be

Anonymous

#9 5w

Bro what are you saying 💀. How did I not consider her feelings. I think I def did if we dated for 4 years

Anonymous

OP 5w

that doesn't even make any sense ignore that comment lmao. You gotta ave a little selfish when dating, people just don't like to admit it. You have to be happy as it's your relationship too. However, that's not to say, at the first feeling of distance, or "it not working" you should end it. Like i said in another comment here. Relationships have ups and downs, true Love should last beyond that.

Anonymous

OP 5w

Victim card now after you ended it

Anonymous

#6 5w

Literally how

Anonymous

#3 5w

I understand that for sure. The other kicker is just that I lost feelings after a while. I’m not saying I didn’t play a part, like talking about it more. I distanced too much

Anonymous

OP 5w

Save me the woe is me

Anonymous

#6 5w

How am I doing that. Literally just asking for advice. You must be 14 because this happens all the time.