Ask Anything on Yik Yak | I’m seeing this guy and I really like him but I’ve never been in a relationship so im anxious about messing things up. And advice on how I can get him to like me and be “relationship material”

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Ask Anything 1w

I’m seeing this guy and I really like him but I’ve never been in a relationship so im anxious about messing things up. And advice on how I can get him to like me and be “relationship material”

Anonymous 1w

If you're already seeing each other that already means he likes you. And you can't be relationship material if he's not ready for one. Either he's going to be in one with you or not

Anonymous 1w

So first and most important is to work on your self esteem. Second, every man is different so there’s no one “do this and he’ll love you instantly” magic trick. 3 if there was a trick, it would be to be yourself & treat him how you would want to be treated. That’s what lead me to getting proposed to by more than one guy, as wild as that sounds! (& yes I have fixed my fear of commitment!) Do the little things you want him to do for you & he’ll subconsciously start doing them for you too.

Anonymous 1w

If they asked for space or just said that they weren’t ready for anything, take them at their word. Most men are simple creatures. Contrary to the beliefs of many, they’re not all liars or evil or deceitful bastards. They’re just often unaware or confused. The dumb ones pull back when they don’t want conflict. The smart ones talk to you and may want to maintain a friendship— even go on more dates. They may just need time.

Anonymous 1w

More importantly, you need to ask yourself if they’re right for you. Most college-aged men (really young people in general) are foolish. They don’t even look for things that are important for relationships in partners. They just look for superficial things. If you’re having problems now, it is likely because of the pond you’re in, not because of you.

Anonymous

#1 1w

But is there anything I can do when he’s with me so he’s like “woah this is the girl of my dreams”

Anonymous

OP 1w

What are you trying to do cast a spell? Either you're the girl of his dreams or you're not. Listen to yourself. Something's wrong with you women now. I swear. You're acting psycho. Either he likes you or he doesn't. Just be you. Nothing more nothing less

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Anonymous

#1 1w

I just don’t know if im good enough with the way I am :(

Anonymous

OP 1w

We're still back to either you are or you aren't. It's a serious problem already that you don't believe you're good enough already

Anonymous

#1 1w

I’ve never had a boyfriend and a guy had never wanted a relationship with me. It really convinced me that im not “relationship material” to guys

Anonymous

OP 1w

Like I said it's already a problem you think this way. You need to fix it

Anonymous

#1 1w

It’s just like it’s hard to think the opposite when actions speak louder than words. My experiences have taught me that guys don’t view me as gf material. I’ve yet to be proven otherwise

Anonymous

OP 1w

How can that be when you're already dating him?

Anonymous

#1 1w

Because we’re not in an official relationship or exclusive. Just going on dates and texting

Anonymous

OP 1w

So what? Just enjoy him and have a good time

Anonymous

#1 1w

I’ve been in this “talking stage” before but I’ve never been in an actual committed relationship. Guys get to this point with me and then end things

Anonymous

OP 1w

Clearly you've dodged some bullets then

Anonymous

#1 1w

Idk if it’s me dodging bullets or something being wrong with me. Bc clearly im the common denominator

Anonymous

OP 1w

I just told you what it was

Anonymous

OP 1w

If you do what you're doing right now I can see why they would. Self doubt isn't attractive

Anonymous

#1 1w

Do you really think im dumb enough to act insecure to the guys im talking to?

Anonymous

OP 1w

No you just are

Anonymous

#1 1w

Now you’re just assuming things about me without actually knowing me.

Anonymous

OP 1w

You've been doubting yourself this entire time. You think you're going to mess this up. You've already been dating him. So what you've never had a bf. But some men can sense your self doubt. Why be with someone who thinks they're not good enough?

Anonymous

#2 1w

Plus it’ll make him feel loved which will make him appreciate you and that will lead to him loving you even more.

Anonymous

#2 1w

Plus it’s a win win cuz he’ll be treating you how you always dreamed and that’s great.

Anonymous

#2 1w

What really sucks is a lot of dating advice catered towards women is centered around playing mind games and making the guy “chase you” which kinda sucks because I want to be myself and just have fun when im talking to a guy. But when things go wrong it kinda does cause me to worry sometimes it’s because I didn’t make him chase me or pursue me enough

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Anonymous

OP 1w

I don’t do mind games really but I do treat them how they treat me if they’re treating me poorly. So if he texts back slowly, he doesn’t value my time or care to talk to me so ok same & I’m not gonna respond to him quickly either. But I’m not like “oh he took 6 hours so I’m gonna take 6 hours.” That’s more mind games to me. There’s a balance & you’ll find it, don’t worry!