
you are an example of men also being victim of the patriarchy. bc if society wasn’t so hell bent on men being tough and not being able to ask for help, your position wouldn’t be as hellish as it is now. real feminism is about being equal to men, not being more than them. and there are so many shitty men it makes it hard for women to empathize with the good ones. you deserve support just as every person doe regardless of gender or sex. wishing you the best ! - another sa survivor w bpd (woman)
i’m not agreeing with the original commenter. bc if anything, yes there are plenty of men who do not care about their own mental health, but what about the ones who do ? what about the ones who are actively seeking help, such as yourself ? i’m not saying that women not empathizing with men is GOOD, in fact i think it only really makes sense when the person at hand is very much guilty of those actions or thinks those actions are not harmful. if anything, the relatability that can be found (1/2)
should bring us closer together. bc it is unfortunate how pretty much every single women i know is a victim of sexual harrassment and assault, often times before they’re even 18. but just bc it happens more often to women doesn’t mean that men should not be able to find the support they need too. bc we are supposed to be equal to one another.
men are also victims of the patriarchy, i am well aware, my stance is that it isn't womens job to save them from it. i'm personally dgaf about helping my oppressor when the patriarchy hurts women 1000x more. its triage. you aren't going to treat the skinned knee before someone who's been shot. and i personally don't want to be equal to a man. objectively and factually on a large scale, they're horrible. i never said men don't deserve support, im saying women shouldn't be expected to provide it
jesus christ. everyone just needs some basic empathy. it would literally fix all of this!! men having empathy for women will lead to women having empathy for men, and then we can all collectively extend that empathy to those who identify as different genders!! empathy people!! understanding eachother!! in the end, we are all the same. let’s just love and accept