Ask Anything on Yik Yak | Why is there so much hate to age gap stuff? Especially older men and young women? The handwaving "exploitation" argument does not make sense amongst consenting adults. The age of consent exists for a reason.

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Ask Anything 16w

Why is there so much hate to age gap stuff? Especially older men and young women? The handwaving "exploitation" argument does not make sense amongst consenting adults. The age of consent exists for a reason.

Anonymous 16w

I like to think about my 20 year old self vs my 18 year old self. Only two years ago, and i was a fully consenting adult, but i was a completely different person and i have changed so much in so little time, i regret things i have done as an 18 year old, im still in my developmental years, as a 20 year old i would never date an 18 year old because of emotional maturity and life experiences, the thought of anyone older than me especially 30+ wanting to date an 18 year old is disgusting

Anonymous 16w

At a certain point is it not within my rights as a young man to consent to a relationship I consider to be good with an older woman. Even if it's temporary? For those who have cogent ideas about this, please share them. Life and relationships are hard, sexuality and society is complicated. What are some good reasons to accept/stigmatize age-gaps?

Anonymous 16w

It's only an issue if one person is older than 30 imo, or the younger person is still in high school. Everyone goes through life at a diff pace and just because there's an age gap doesn't mean the people are in different stages

Anonymous 16w

Your brain doesn’t fully develop til 25, so both of you need to be on the same side of 25.

Anonymous 16w

You can still be manipulated even if you’re over 18

Anonymous

#2 16w

because they are so different and we learn so much in our college years that shape us to be knowledgeable adults who make smart decisions, 18 year olds are full of impulse and do not make smart decisions, grown men know that and use that as their chance to get some pussy, college age kids can fuck through that trauma together at the same age, but a grown person who has lived through that life should not take advantage of immature children and their trauma to get some. TED talk out.

Anonymous

#2 16w

I just turned 22 and I feel like I haven't changed at all since I was 18...I don't even feel like I've learned that much non-academically at all so far in college 😐

Anonymous

#1 16w

to each their own, i would not do any of the same things today that i would do when i was 18, i have learned millions of new things that have entirely changed my worldview, i have experienced so many new experiences which have changed my view on how i want to live my life, i am nowhere near the same person i was two years ago, many of my friends are the same they have done a complete 180 in their lives in the past 2-5 years

Anonymous

#1 16w

Sure I get that and I agree about people being in different stages at different ages. Why do you think being in different stages necessarily creates a problem? I'd love to date a woman with a stable job, a position in her community, lives in a paid off house, etc... Who cares if she is "in a different stage". And if she's generous enough to share that stability with me/teach me/ in a loving way... why not?

Anonymous

#3 16w

Sure I get that and I agree about people being in different stages at different ages. Why do you think being in different stages necessarily creates a problem?

Anonymous

OP 16w

Over 25 know what they used to fall for when they were under 25 and can use that to manipulate younger people into doing things they realistically do not want to do

Anonymous

#2 16w

Ok so making sure I understand your statement: The potential for manipulation exists, this is what makes age-gap a problem. The potential for a manipulative scenario is enough to stigmatize a category of relationships?

Anonymous

OP 16w

I agree, a younger mind is easier to manipulate. Less experience makes them even more likely to be in bad relationship.

Anonymous

#3 16w

So is younger the problem or is less experience the problem?

Anonymous

OP 16w

Both together, you can be older and not have the experience but understand it. The younger have yet to have that capacity to understand what they haven’t experienced.