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i saw a comment say that if ur questioning if u got SA’d, u were. agree or disagree, and why/why not?
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Anonymous 1w

agree. consent should be absolutely clear in every sexual encounter. if you're unsure, it was unclear, so your partner should not have continued.

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Anonymous 1w

Agree! If it’s to the point where you’re questioning whether or not you wanted that, then that means it should have been unclear to the offender whether or not to continue. They should’ve asked or you should’ve set a boundary.

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Anonymous 1w

depends, but generally you know whether you actually agreed and wanted something, and when you start down the path of "did it count", you generally were assaulted

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Anonymous 1w

Disagree, on the premise that there is nuance in every situation. Many, many situations are rape, and the victim may not conceptualize it like that at the time- I think the comment has good heart and it often correct. However things like coercion aren’t rape, but still suck ass and should come with consequences, and leave consequences on the victim. Not everything is rape, but that doesn’t make it right, and it’s necessary to understand the levels to it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

To be fair, that doesn’t mean it needs to be a serious offense, just means maybe you need a talk to clear things up, since it made you feel uncomfortable. Not an accusatory talk either, just like “hey, you did this last night, I didn’t really want that, that’s my bad for not communicating but can you ask next time?”

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

For example, if some ultimately capitulated to sex after their partner harassed and pouted and complained and harangued, that wasn’t rape, because there was a form of consent, but it WAS coercion, which is also really shitty and also can have shitty long term effects for the victim. Just bc they weren’t raped doesn’t mean they didn’t go through something, yanno?

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