Ask Anything on Yik Yak | Is it wrong that it’s rubbing me the wrong way that my friend broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years and is already dating someone else within the month? Like ik it’s her life but something is bothering me abt it

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Ask Anything 22h

Is it wrong that it’s rubbing me the wrong way that my friend broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years and is already dating someone else within the month? Like ik it’s her life but something is bothering me abt it

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Anonymous 21h

imo this means that she was checked out of the relationship for a while before they broke up and was just slowly getting up the confidence/making sure she actually wanted to break up with him before she actually did, therefore recovered a lot quicker emotionally and probably jumped into this new relationship a little too fast but that doesn’t necessarily mean she cheated or anything

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Anonymous 21h

Women tend to mentally break up before they actually break up with someone. She might have been out of that relationship long before she broke up with him

Anonymous 20h

Mind your business you don't know what her experience was over the last 6 years and never will fully

Anonymous 22h

she had him set up as a backup months ago prolly

Anonymous 20h

Idk, I think socially enforcing “grieving windows” for breakups is dumb. No one died, who cares if she’s ready to date/move on sooner than you expected? People are different.

Anonymous 22h

Nah that’s actually crazy

Anonymous 20h

I've never been single for long so I get her. After a long relationship, I hopped straight into another (shorter) one. There was no overlap or cheating, it just happened that way bc I didn't want to be alone. I think it's a poor choice but it doesn't always imply that there was any infidelity. But even if there was, that relationship is already over.

Anonymous 20h

this means that not only we’re you jealous of the love that she had, but now you are jealous of the happiness shes finding

Anonymous 19h

my friend did the same but her ex was an abuser and abused her for years and i never knew until she was out of that relationship she finally told me what was happening and why she left and then she got with this other guy like a few weeks in after breaking off her engagement with her ex who was her fiance for 3 yrs

Anonymous 21h

that’s acc crazy

Anonymous 21h

If they’re doing exclusive dating it’s pretty much 100% chance they were entangled while she was still in that six year relationship

Anonymous 16h

You can listen to your friend while keeping in mind it is not your place to judge

Anonymous 15h

Not your business. You know your feelings aren’t rational, right? Do you think you could be jealous of how quickly she was able to find someone new? Are you in a relationship? If so, are you unhappy in the relationship?

Anonymous 14h

Yes it’s fucked up

Anonymous 10h

I broke up with my ex of 4+ years and got into a relationship rather quickly.. I always felt hella guilty about it and tried setting a boundary of waiting a year to get into a new one… but for who? I was ready to move on after being treated like garbage and not even realizing it until the final days of the relationship. I don’t need to wait for anyone Didn’t start the new relationship officially until the school year started again (the breakup was right before summer) but man am I happy

Anonymous 15h

Coming from a guy that this happened to recently. There’s a really good chance she was talking to this guy months before the break up. This happened to me and I later found out the new guy she got with was someone she was talking to and hooking up with months before we broke up.

Anonymous 19h

Welcome to american women

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Anonymous

#9 20h

No it means she’s recognizing her friend isn’t a person of value

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Anonymous

#4 20h

Really? You feel confident saying there’s a 100 PERCENT CHANCE that someone who started casually dating a couple weeks after a breakup was cheating? You are making crazy assumptions

Anonymous

#10 20h

“person of value” are you a slave owner?

Anonymous

#9 20h

Nice cope 🤣 makes 0 sense.

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Anonymous

#9 20h

If you can move on that fast clearly she can drop her as a friend whenever it isn’t convenient for her anymore.

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Anonymous

#10 20h

I highly doubt thats the case. In fact i think you only believe that because you’ve been assigning “value” to people your whole life. Thats a very sad and disappointing way to live. Like her, i think your actions are rooted in jealousy and need a change

Anonymous

#10 20h

bro u have no clue what was going on in that girls head. i highly doubt that six years in she went hmm maybe i should break up w him? and instantly did. that kind of decision takes genuinely months of pondering, and there’s a good chance all romantic feelings towards him were gone weeks if not months before she ended it. comparing that to a friendship makes no sense

Anonymous

#6 20h

Lmao dude you’re getting all riled up whole time I’m just baiting you. Take a breather

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Anonymous

#10 20h

“bait” sure…

Anonymous

#9 20h

Ya done took it

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Anonymous

#10 20h

actually i’m chilling tanning on a beach rn mildly entertained by this convo cuz there’s nothing else to do, thx for providing that entertainment for me!

Anonymous

#6 20h

Yessir have a good day. Wear sunscreen

Anonymous

#10 20h

oh dw i am, learned that lesson yesterday😔

Anonymous

#13 19h

and im so happy for her bc she got out of that and is now with someone who actually cares for her so

Anonymous

#9 19h

Awww yes, my friend either A:mentally checked out a kong time ago and lead on their now ex OR B: doesn’t trust me enough to tell me how bad their relationship of 6 years was and also does not recognize it is not healthy to immediately move on from an abusive relationship (more so than a healhty one)

Anonymous

#6 19h

That’s what I’m thinking, I def don’t think she cheated or anything. I think I’m just stuck in the perspective that I’d be hurt if I was on the other side. I also don’t think she’s in the “wrong” it’s her life, if she’s happy I’m happy, it’s just something on my mind for some reason😭

Anonymous

#10 19h

I have no idea what’s happening in this convo but I’m not jealous lol. I also don’t think she’s in the wrong, if she’s happy, I’m happy. I’ve had a lot of relationships where the only reason I was their friend or whatever was just to be another body at their functions, so things like this make me nervous!

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Anonymous

#13 19h

I’m so happy she got out, that’s awful! Im close with this friend and her ex and he def was a lazy lover but he wasn’t abusive!

Anonymous

#12 18h

It’s a bit hard to mind my business when she keeps bragging about this new guy she found (I’m in a happy relationship so I just listen and stay happy for her)

Anonymous

#14 18h

i don’t think that she led him on just cuz she took time to make sure she was 100% making the right decision by ending things. i also don’t think anyone is saying it’s necessarily emotionally healthy to get into a new relationship so fast, just that it doesn’t mean she cheated on him

Anonymous

OP 18h

and that’s fair! i just feel like a lot of ppl are implying she had this new bf on the side or as a “backup” during the other relationship and i don’t think that’s necessarily the case or fair to assume. i’ve been on both sides of this tho and honestly neither feels great but it’s just how life goes sometimes

Anonymous

#13 10h

Omg 😭😭 My ex of 4+ years made me engage with him too With a necklace from a game I didn’t recognize.. Goodness do I sympathize with her haha.. She deserves love 💛