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Guys I need advice. I am shy and this crazy social guy asked me out. We went on a date and it was great and he was gentlemanly and polite. I’m afraid he’s going on a little strong
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Anonymous 2d

Hi I was you once and now I can’t get away from him 4 years later, my self esteem is destroyed and I’m trapped. I can’t think my own thoughts or talk to my old friends. I hope the guy you’re talking to is just bubbly and hope everything goes great. But as a fellow timid girl I recommend being wary of men who come on strong and have huge personalities, I lost mine.

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Anonymous 2d

i know it's hard but u gotta tell him if you're uncomfortable with anything. if he cares, he'll adjust, or if it's something he doesn't want to give up, it's a compatibility issue--atp just go ur own ways

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Anonymous 2d

So should I keep giving this guy a chance and risk getting manipulated or just shut things off cause I’m getting a bit nervous? I don’t know if this is a me issue or not 😭

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Anonymous 2d

Context: He’s kinda chunky and he’s dated at least one girl before. In the past 3 days he asked me to hang out three times (including that date). I think he’s gonna get me flowers for our second date. I’m concerned that he might be love bombing, but maybe he’s just desperate and social? I am usually drawn to cold guys who show no interest in me so I don’t know if it’s a me issue or not

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Thank you for sharing your story and giving me warning. I was already a bit nervous because we’ve had a couple sexual assaults on campus already this year. What warning signs should I watch out for the most?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

I mean the hanging out a lot is a little odd but flowers are ok! Have you guys already kissed?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

No, I’ve never actually been kissed before so I’m taking everything very slow. We haven’t even held hands or anything yet

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2d

Yeah I think I’m gonna check out his intentions on the next date and decide from there. You make such a good point, though

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Ok then yeah give him the chance but if uncomfortable tell him your boundaries and concerns

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Alright

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

I do wanna be clear I’m biased because of my negative experience and you shouldn’t be afraid to put yourself out there or accept chivalry from guys who like you. But I wish I noticed more around the start that he never apologizes even over little disagreements and he has something negative to say about every single important person in my life. If you feel unheard or isolated I think those are the signs. I hope ur guy isn’t like that though and hope you get to keep going on fun dates

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Thanks yeah I’m still a little bit suspicious of his intentions and stuff, so we’ll see. But I appreciate the advice and definitely look out for those warning signs. I also looked into lovebombing online and have only seen one sign so we are good so far.

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