Ask Anything on Yik Yak | Help me understand: why do people do fwb/situationships? I don’t know why people lower their standards so much and have a lack of self respect.

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Help me understand: why do people do fwb/situationships? I don’t know why people lower their standards so much and have a lack of self respect.

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Anonymous 22h

Some people just want to have fun without being tied down

Anonymous 17h

It’s a double edged sword. I do fwb because my standards are high. In my eyes putting a label on a relationship means that I have to bring proper effort that don’t I currently have the time for, so I would rather be honest about what I am able to do for my partner. I think real relationships are more healthy than fwb because they allow for healthy communication. That said I think that relationships as we define them are not monolithic…

Anonymous

#2 17h

I think that some relationships are started early for the sake of having a shoulder to lean on when in reality one or both members aren’t actually strong enough to be leaned on themselves. I think that is less healthy than a situationship (which aren’t monolithic either to be fair).

Anonymous

#2 17h

Because at least in a decent situationship boundaries are defined. I understand why you conflate this thinking with a lowering of standards, that’s why they are called situation not relation ships, but I think we disagree on whether or not that hurts your self respect and more importantly your respect for your partner. I’d rather lower the bar and do a full pull up then put it arbitrary high to say I’m doing the full thing only to barely get a chin up in. ATP the difference is only definitional