Anonymous #1 1w

Bro just say you are an incel 😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

But I’m not a virgin… I’ve been in several relationships.

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Anonymous #1 1w

I don’t even hate women. I have plenty if not majority female friends. I just don’t think dating is worthwhile.

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Anonymous #1 1w

You ever try dating a dude? Ion even mean that in any sort of way you just sound like you might be gay

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah, I have, haha. Marginally better. I’m still disillusioned from dating. Sorry, I realise I’ve totally derailed your post, I just wanted to reassure you that my post was not from a place of hatred or inceldom

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Anonymous #1 1w

Ok reading this actually has me quite intrigued, my current girlfriend is genuinely the first relationship ive felt where we are compatible in such a fundamental level and after my last i thought i was just done with relationships. Im curious about your story and dating history that brings you to this position if you would like to share

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Anonymous OP 1w

I’m really glad you have a girlfriend who you’re compatible with, genuinely. It’s hard for me to imagine being happy in a relationship. But I know it’s possible, plenty of people do it. I’m just a very lonely person in general. I used to be way more into romance, but it kind of died in me. No partner ruined it, though. Just my mental health maybe lol

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Anonymous #1 1w

But also, a lot of what I hear about relationships is the nagging, the incompetence, the lack of mutual understanding, the conflict, all without any clear reward. I’m told it’s more effort than it’s worth. But also that it’s the best thing in people’s lives. Some people are so certain about their partners, but then it falls apart. Nothing is infallible, and it’s hard to accept that it’s worth it to try.

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Anonymous #1 1w

i think you’ve had bad luck with women bc this isn’t the norm. it’s effort, but it shouldn’t be a chore and is more than worth it for the right person

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Anonymous #3 1w

I want a partnership, but I struggle to really be in love with the other person. I try my best to perform affection, because I do care about them and want them to be happy, but I can’t make it convincing enough. It’s disappointing, and I feel like everyone is better off if I don’t date. Besides, effort to reward ratio seems not worth it to me. But this conversation changed my mind a little

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Anonymous #1 1w

I should reiterate — this is not an indictment at ALL of women as friends, or as individuals. I just think that for heterosexual relationships, there’s too much resentment inbuilt between genders that it feels like it’s doomed to fail. Listening to straight women and straight men independently would have you believe they want nothing to do with one another. Or look at mothers who struggle with their manchild (abusive) husband then laugh it off online and defend him.

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