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how do I actually get over her?

Anonymous 2w

When you decide to move on with your life

Anonymous 2w

Actually?

Anonymous 2w

I just “got over” a 7 year relationship with my ex girlfriend here’s what I’d do: 1. Do things that make you more confident and comfortable in your own skin ( Learn to dress yourself, focus on the gym, work on school or work. The specifics don’t matter, just make sure it’s something that makes you feel valuable ). 2. Reconnect with friends, hang out with people, really try to connect with those who care about you. My only purpose in life was to be her provider, hanging out with people who-

Anonymous

#3 2w

Actually cared about me outside of my wealth, emotional support, or body gave me a since of autonomy and community that really helped me heal and feel better about myself. 3. When you feel like you can stomach the thought of being with someone else (this can take time) give someone else a chance. You don’t have to be super sure, just try to meet girls. Dating and actually trying to love someone else was the finally step I needed to forget about her. Once I saw that there really was someone-

Anonymous

#3 2w

Do you ever find yourself comparing her to others though?

Anonymous

#3 2w

better for me, it finally pushed me over that last bit of doubt and let me move on. You got this man, I felt like I lost everything in the breakup, but at the end of the day, it makes you so much stronger than you ever think you could be

Anonymous

OP 2w

Yes I do, and I think that’s okay. The new girl I’m dating has some qualities I wish she had that my ex had, but she’s so much better in so many other ways that those comparisons mean very little to me.

Anonymous

#3 2w

I just think that’s the hardest thing for me. I compare her to others and I can’t find myself actually trying to connect with anyone because they aren’t her

Anonymous

OP 2w

I feel you man and I’m sorry it’s so damn hard. I think you’re still going through the hardest part: learning to live without her. That’s the first to parts I was talking about. They took me 5 months to even consider seeing someone else, and in that period of time, I just wanted everything to end. it got better, but just know that theres a lights at the end of the tunnel I promise. Judge it like this, if there’s any general upwards trend in your happiness, you know that’s a good sign for things

Anonymous

#3 2w

Tbh I hate it because before her I was fine and then she came back telling me how’s she’s changed and she’s grown from the last time we talked and I believed her everything was great and then once August hit everything just went downhill and she became more distant and cold towards me. Like a complete different person. I agree it’s the hardest part living without her presence as much in my life because I always just wait and see if she’s reaching out to me and then I’m just let down