Ask Anything on Yik Yak | just found out my boyfriend is republican and super pro-life/anti abortion. we have friends of all different races and sexualities that he loves and respects so this is a surprise to me. he treats me the best I've ever been treated idk what to do.

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just found out my boyfriend is republican and super pro-life/anti abortion. we have friends of all different races and sexualities that he loves and respects so this is a surprise to me. he treats me the best I've ever been treated idk what to do.

Anonymous 6w

girl.... dump his chud ass

Anonymous 6w

Sometimes you can have great relationships looking past personal opinions and values! You can talk it over with him, but don’t try to change his mind. Keep an open mind yourself! Listen like you might be wrong. As a female myself, I understand how him not wanting you to have control over your body is an ick. But some people really believe that fetuses should be given a chance to live, and that killing them is like murdering a baby. It’s a messy topic with no right answer.

Anonymous 6w

What you do is accept the differences and do nothing about it. That’s what he does. Why should you “do something” about it because of political differences?

Anonymous

#2 6w

gonna talk to him tmr…if he truly believes women do not deserve healthcare it’s over

Anonymous

#1 6w

I don’t want to be with someone who believes I should not have control over my own body. it is as simple as that.

Anonymous

OP 6w

if you’ve made up your mind then you should cut ties and explain it. Your political differences and concerns on abortion are more important than your relationship

Anonymous

OP 6w

Where does any of that say he doesn’t think women deserve healthcare? That’s way different than someone being pro-life.

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Anonymous

#1 6w

abortion is/SHOULD be a part of standard healthcare for women.

Anonymous

OP 6w

Abortion to safe the woman’s life absolutely. But there’s like a whole spectrum to the topic. I totally understand wanting an abortion if you’re literally gonna die like that shit is overdue. But if you just don’t want a baby after 8 months? And you were healthy up to this point? That’s where a lot of people draw the line

Anonymous

#1 6w

Most people aborting at 8 months is bc it’s medically necessary. At that point they’ve probably picked out names and painted the room and gotten furniture. You don’t just let go of that

Anonymous

#3 6w

couldn’t have said it better myself

Anonymous

#3 6w

Again if it’s medically necessary that’s perfectly fine!

Anonymous

#1 6w

What I’m saying is, you’re basing your argument in people that don’t really exist. You’re saying eight months because it makes you sounds more reasonable than something like ‘abortion shouldn’t be a right for women unless they’ll die otherwise’ whereas my belief is ‘abortion should be a right’, full stop.

Anonymous

#4 6w

My personal conclusion is that people should have the freedom to make that moral decision themselves (pro-choice), and let God decide what was right when He judges them in the afterlife. I’ve found that that point of view resonates with some pro-life people I’ve met, if that helps. The important thing is to be non-confrontational. If you go into the discussion like a fight then it doesn’t really do any good.

Anonymous

OP 6w

When will men realise that politics isn’t just a hypothetical for women lol I seriously don’t get it

Anonymous

#4 6w

I appreciate this perspective, thank you.

Anonymous

#4 5w

update: we talked about it and he said that because he is a man, it isn't up to him and never should be (thank god). in other words he is just pro life in his opinions, but understands other circumstances/situations and why one may get an abortion, and would never want to prevent anyone from having a choice. safe to say we are good now

Anonymous

OP 5w

Hooray! Glad you two were able to talk it out :)