NTA you’re being very thoughtful about this. i 100% agree with your points and think they’re reasonable. for 1), why would you pay for a dorm no one is living in? if anything i think you’re being super respectful to your parents here. for 2), you can always visit your boyfriend without living with him for this summer. i totally understand wanting to be in a space with just yourself for a bit. if anything, it’s prob a good idea to practice more independence + ultimately make yourself stronger.

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There’s a way to set up your location so that instead of your phone location she gets the location of your computer or another device. It might be worth looking into if u have an iPhone/ MacBook, and leaving the second device at your boyfriends place so you can enjoy your peace without being tracked so hard

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NTA, and honestly weird behavior on your mom’s part. You’re an adult and the dorm is being payed for so it makes sense for you to be there. Would it be possible to just tell them that your bf is staying with you there for a night or two so they’ll stay off your back about it?

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No you’re NTA but you’ll want to think carefully about your next moves. I know if I did something like this to my mom she would threaten to stop paying for my summer dorm and make me come home. I would maybe try to find ways to dodge the location and/or have boyfriend come over and take pictures together so when she asks why you’re at your dorm alone you can say he’s with you and you just wanted to get some of your items or his roommates got annoyed so you (or you two) had to leave.

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