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AITA 7w
AITA For blocking and reporting someone for doing an *experiment* on dating apps? I matched with this one guy on hinge, one reason being that he put that he doesn't want kids. I later saw him on Bumble but this time he said he wanted kids. I asked him-
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Anonymous 7w

About it because not only do I never want kids, but I'm currently in the process of getting an entire hysterectomy. The guy ended up admitting that he wanted to see what gets him more matches. He said that he does want kids, but has found it harder to match with people that are his type because many women he likes do not want kids. So yeah I unmatched and reported him for lying.

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Anonymous 7w

NTA in my opinion because imagine if you would’ve matched with him thinking that he DOESNT want kids and then come to find out he actually does. Literally would’ve started the relationship off with a lie, so I think you did the right thing and called him out for it.

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Anonymous 7w

NTA , you can block someone for having weird vibes, NTa. And if you had the knowledge based off a previous experience or conversation that his intentions were for an experiment, that’s weird.

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Anonymous 7w

Nah not the asshole he’s a lying dick

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Anonymous 7w

NTA. There is also no way that women aren’t matching with him cause he wants kids. He’s probably just not attractive to women.

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Anonymous 7w

I think it gets past ethics board if he debriefs participants

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Anonymous 7w

NAH. Seems like a long way off for both of you

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Anonymous 7w

not the asshole for blocking- are the asshole for reporting. reporting imo should be reserved for harmful individuals

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Anonymous 7w

Yeah you are, if you’re interested than message him, if you’re not then don’t, trying to be a Karen with a hall monitor attitude is honestly incredibly rude. Not only that but it doesn’t feel like a coincidence for you to see the same person on both platforms and then to compare the profiles, gives internet stalker vibes. Also there’s nothing wrong with using dating apps to just try and meet someone, it’s incredibly offensive to get mad at someone for simply trying to meet more people.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

Also what did he expect to happen? Was he going to mislead a woman into believing he dosent want kids as well and then try to change her mind? He’s a freak

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

Studied ethics. This fails for at least 3 reasons

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

What reasons

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 7w

I feel like you didn't read the entire post

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 7w

Being a “hall monitor” and “Karen” but he’s actively lying to her and possibly other women…🫤

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 7w

Let me guess, the only way you can get women is by being dishonest. No one cares if you’re offended 😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

A “researcher” is not supposed to participate in his own study this way. For example, a cancer researcher should not be taking a cancer drug. It seems like he actually intends to date these women. He did not immediately tell them/disclose it was for a “study”. He was actually going through with the matches. You are actually not allowed to lie in observational studies. He did lie by pretending to be himself wanting to date these women just changing his preferences. size and location error

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

Ahh I was going with the assumption he didn’t plan to follow through beyond making sure the match was to actually date (some people do it to comment I believe?). Also thought he might debrief as he did with her. I agree with what you’ve said, but I’m confused ab the lying. Isn’t that how they make false environments/conditions?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

He didn’t “debrief” (what a wild thing to even have to do with someone you met via a lie on a dating app???) with her until after she confronted him. Sounds like not even immediately. And it absolutely sounds like he planned to follow through with the dates. Regardless, it was more than “thanks for matching, this was an experiment” which would still be wrong.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

And “false environments” like a placebo are not lying because participants know going into a study they could get the drug OR placebo and know they won’t know which they will get until after (if they even want to know!). That is a different type of study. In observational studies we are NOT allowed to lie at all as it could change the data in a way that is dishonest. To do this study ethically, he would need a sample of similar men whose only meaningful difference is wanting kids.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

That makes sense; thank you for the detail and answer, it's appreciated! :)

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