I don’t think you’re necessarily an asshole for wanting someone like your ex if that’s what you want, but if I was dating someone and found out they liked me bc I reminded them of their favorite ex I think I would be pretty hurt and uncomfortable.

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It depends. I may be using my ex as the standard when I get back out there bc before him I was treated horribly. He was a gentleman, paid for most dates (I had to practically fight him so he’d let me pay lol), remembered small things I liked, was there for me, and just over all felt me safe and loved. I would want someone who acts in those ways, but not like a copy of him. I don’t think it’s wrong to use stuff like that as a standard

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they’re an ex for a reason so obv someone like them wouldn’t last long either…

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Just bc someone else is similar doesn’t mean it’ll be a good relationship. NTA for having preferences but maybe shift your expectations

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