He thinks rich people are evil, but my parents are quite well off financially so I began to argue to him that wanting financial security for your future family isn’t bad. He argued back that i can’t worship both God and money and that all of my worries about money were bullshit and that my family lived an empty life and he wants his kids to struggle so they become good people. I then told him that my dad was driven to work hard to be able to provide for his family and that isn’t a bad thing.

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I usually don’t tell people how financially stable I am or how wealthy my parents are because of people like that. It would be ignorant of me to say money and your financial status growing up has no impact on who you are, but it’s definitely not everything. The fact that he wants his own kids to struggle is such a red flag, I don’t care what his reasoning is. You should want to give your kids the entire world. He needs therapy to work through whatever is going on in his head.

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He then for some reason took that as me saying that his parents didn’t work as hard as my dad and he said fuck you, he called me a joke, a dumb fuck, an idiot, and said I was immature. He also said he never wanted to speak to me again which he often says in arguments

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I told him later those things were unacceptable to say and he said I had been disrespecting him the whole time and he finally lost his patience. I had to pull an apology out of him for saying these things to me. At first when I asked for him to apologize all he said was “ok”.

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Am I an asshole for trying to explain why privileged people can actually be hard workers who have good intentions

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NTA. Financial security is incredibly important and needs long term planning. You are in no way wrong for having that as a clear goal. He should be supporting you in this not pushing you down.

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If someone said that about my parents and I, I would have punched them in the face! Your bf sound like an insecure little B! Not to mention delusional and in complete lack of awareness of the world! This world is ruled by MONEY! money determines EVERYTHING in gods creation. I am so sorry your bf is so deprived from reality.

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So all im hearing is that HE is mad because YOU don't want to struggle in the future if you can help it. Who wants their kids to struggle?

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Agree with what was said. I don’t like his tone in the argument, money arguments are going to cause stress but the way he speaks to you in an argument is unacceptable. I’d break up with him over his words towards me alone. Second, nta for wanting financial stability. There’s a way to tech your children to be moral kind ppl without having them struggle financially so they won’t be spoiled. It’s weird he grew up fincnally unstable and doesn’t want to be stable now, that’s just such a niche opiion

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