AITA on Yik Yak | My bf asked what I wanted to eat. I said nothing. He bought me something anyway. Now he’s saying I made him waste his money because I told him im not hungry. Should I just have forced myself to eat or something?

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AITA 5w

My bf asked what I wanted to eat. I said nothing. He bought me something anyway. Now he’s saying I made him waste his money because I told him im not hungry. Should I just have forced myself to eat or something?

Anonymous 5w

Noooo stop that’s so sad

Anonymous 5w

When I say “I feel kinda icky rn, it’s okay I’ll just make myself something small later, you get whatever you want” my bf just does that. Sometimes he makes suggestions for smaller/lighter meals he knows I like like salad for ex, but if I say again no I just don’t feel like food rn, he backs off. Get a man that doesn’t just hear you but actually fucking listens to u

Anonymous 5w

No. He’s being a dick. This is a red flag honestly so keep your eyes peeled girl because there’s no way his foolery ends there

Anonymous 4w

nta but he was trying to be nice , next time take one or two bites even if it’s small be like i appreciate it and that ur gonna eat it later.

Anonymous

#3 4w

also if u don’t wanna eat at all just sit with him while he eats and talk to him bout something unrelated and random even talk about ur day, and if he asks why aren’t eating be like well i wasn’t hungry i told u earlier but it was nice of you to get me sumn ill have it later

Anonymous

#3 4w

This is so people-pleaser. SHE WAS NOT HUNGRY AND SAID NO. She doesn’t need to take a bite or two to make him feel better about himself. He needs to learn to actually listen to what she says and not think he knows better than she does about what she wants. If he was actually “trying to be nice” he wouldn’t have guilted her afterwards for HIS actions. Playing it off as “trying to be nice” is just making excuses for his narc behavior. Respectfully

Anonymous

#2 4w

it’s not people pleaser it’s just plain nice… u wanna be a bitch cool idc but just cus ur salty and lonely doesn’t mean this nice girl has it be… like I was raised to be polite and if he doesn’t take to that and is an asshoek then to hell with him too. ps if you keeel thinking like that ur not gonna get shit good in ur life u gotta be nice to people not everything is by ur command

Anonymous

#3 4w

You don’t have to be impolite, no one said to bitch him out about it. I actually firmly believe that addressing something by giving the same energy or higher energy does nothing but escalate it meaninglessly. But placing the blame on someone else for YOUR actions is quite literally textbook narcissism, bestie.

Anonymous

#3 4w

And I’m getting married, so having firm boundaries has actually helped me out a lot. I found someone that is equally willing to communicate healthily about their feelings rather than placing blame in a blameless situation.