Anonymous #7 4w

Thank u like genuinely the dumbest question ever

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Anonymous #4 4w

Literally what did the guy do wrong 😭😭 you have no information about how he responded or how he was acting

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Anonymous #8 4w

WAITTTT I MIGHT HAVE MADE SOMETHING UP IN MY HEAD - why did I read he was mad???

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Anonymous #4 4w

Ur good lol just don’t be so quick to point fingers

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Anonymous #8 4w

She only pointed fingers cuz she thought thats what the person said lol

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ur not!! Being scared of sex is completely normal and i dont think theres a single human being who hasnt been scared or nervous to have sex at one point in their life

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Anonymous #6 4w

No shes not dumb men are gaslighters when they don’t get their way and make you feel like shit for “wasting their time”

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Anonymous #11 4w

She literally said he didn’t get mad or anything like that so she had no reason to feel like she was in the wrong. Nobody should ever feel like they’re in the wrong for not wanting to have sex because you’re not. There is quite literally never a case where someone who didn’t want to have sex is the asshole.

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Anonymous #6 4w

Then why word it like that “are you dumb” is just rude and yeah it’s good he didn’t get mad and she emphasized that but I feel like it’s rare and often times dudes will gaslight tf out of you when they don’t get their way.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Of course not! Don’t ever feel embarrassed for having a valid fear/anxiety over something that is the most physically intimate, vulnerable act you could ever do with someone. Especially as a woman, you give your body to a man and put yourself in his hands. I was scared of penetrative sex as well, to where I would engage in acts like you did but not allow it to go all the way because I did not trust them with my body, or I was scared of getting pregnant, or I was nervous of it in general. (1)

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Anonymous #5 4w

And I’m glad that I did. Because for one; those men turned out to be not so great themselves and did not deserve the access to my body or do that with me, and two, to me, (in my preference, everyone has their different preferences and what’s good for them) sex is a very intimate and special thing best saved for someone you know really loves you and you know you really love them, and that you could trust with your body. (2)

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Anonymous #5 4w

It’s completely okay and valid if others make different decisions, but this is what worked for me. And I’m very glad I saved myself (/penetrative sex) for the right man. I would not have changed a thing. Sorry for the long ass reply lol, but I feel like sharing your story to help others, especially this subject, is important. Making a decision to protect and honor your body and having valid fear/anxiety/nervousness over one of the most vulnerable acts a human can do is NOTHING to be ashamed of!

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Anonymous #11 4w

Because any normal person knows that you’re not in the wrong for saying that you don’t wanna have sex. It’s basic boundaries so anyone who doesn’t respect your basic boundaries would be the one in the wrong😭 especially since she had no reason to think that she was an asshole for saying no. Instead of asking if she was in the wrong in the situation, she should’ve just asked if it was normal to be scared of sex and then she would be told that it is normal and her question would be answered

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Anonymous #6 4w

lol who hurt you- when I made my original comment I didn’t see the part where she said he DIDNT get mad when she said no. maybe the op should have included a detail like that in the main post because clearly other people were confused. It can be confusing when a detail like that is left out and it sounded like maybe the guy was upset and thats why she felt like an asshole.

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