AITA on Yik Yak | AITA, my girlfriend want to end our relationship because of the fact that I have long time female friends. One friend of almost 12 years. We’ve never had any sort of romantic or sexual relationship, it’s been strictly platonic. Am I in the wrong?

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AITA 10w

AITA, my girlfriend want to end our relationship because of the fact that I have long time female friends. One friend of almost 12 years. We’ve never had any sort of romantic or sexual relationship, it’s been strictly platonic. Am I in the wrong?

Anonymous 10w

nta, your gf sounds too insecure to be able to trust you and that’s not good for a relationship

Anonymous 10w

If there’s no history or any kind then you’re not in the wrong. What exactly is her problem? Do you talk to these girls everyday or something? Is it a boundary issue or does she just not like you having female friends period ?

Anonymous 10w

NTA

Anonymous 10w

Neither of you are wrong. Just with the wrong person. You need to be with someone who can honor the relationships you had prior to her. She needs to be with someone who doesn’t have female friends and doesn’t want her to have male friends. The two of you need to find a compromise or break up and get with people who understand and respect you.

Anonymous 10w

NTA, i’m definitely a jealous gf in relationships but never to that extent. if you’ve been friends for years and haven’t done anything yet, idk why she would think that you would now

Anonymous 10w

I’m not comfortable with my boyfriend hanging out one on one with a female friend. I don’t mind it with a group, but one on one is too intimate for my liking. I don’t have male friends so it’s not like it’s on sided. Neither of you are the asshole. She has a different mindset than you. And there nothing wrong with it, but it won’t work out in a relationship.

Anonymous 10w

Nta unfortune your gfs being insecure and not trusting you and these girl relationships, but if you’ve given zero reason for her to think sm was going on, you’ve done everything right. Plus, these are your long time friends as you mentioned and their important ppl in your life. If you’ve given zero don’t want to stop hanging out 1-1 which is fine cause their your friends, then maybe it won’t work out cause she can’t trust you and friends

Anonymous 10w

NTA

Anonymous 10w

Nta. She is being controlling. Never give up a friendship like that for someone else

Anonymous

#1 10w

More context: I hang out with my friend one on one, we lived in a house together for a year as roommates. Idk if this changes anything, but I feel like it’s context that’s needed

Anonymous

OP 10w

to me you’d still not be the asshole but if you’d be bothered if she had a close guy friend that she also lived with and hung out with 1on1 then i would stay consistent

Anonymous

#1 10w

No not at all, if I knew this person has been in her life for years, then of course not

Anonymous

#2 10w

It feels like the ladder, idk I’ve been friends with my best friend since high school, we would go to coffee and do homework together, we did theatre together and like I said before rented together, but there has never been any hint of romantic tension between us, and if there was it would be shut down immediately.

Anonymous

OP 10w

Well that’s something you should talk about then like ask your gf what boundaries should there be because as a girl I can understand it a little if you talked to these girls everyday all the time that would bother me too. But if that’s not the case then she’s just insecure and breaking up is the way to go

Anonymous

#2 10w

I have talked to her about it and she said that if it makes her uncomfortable I shouldn’t be hanging out with them in those one on one situations. for example my friend who is coming into town, we haven’t talked or seen each other (other then a text or a phone call every month or so) in a year or so. her family member is getting married and she said I should come to the wedding and hang out with her family (who I’ve known since freshmen year of high school) and my GF said I shouldn’t be going

Anonymous

OP 10w

Oh then I guess it’s best to leave her

Anonymous

OP 10w

All the context won’t change the fact ur girl insecure as #1 was saying as per advice I think the first would be to accept that fact

Anonymous

#6 10w

Now if there were a new female friend that came after her, I can see her jealously and territorial a tad more cause I’d be a bit the same lmao. But in your case those friends where there first and mean a lot

Anonymous

OP 10w

context does matter like how close or intimate the relationship is, you’re fine but from a girls perspective you can be friends just not be one on one close or rlly having the same relationship you had as friends before your gf