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AITA 5d
for asking my boyfriend to do little things like touch my arm/leg/hand when we’re together, open the doors for me, get me little random gifts/flowers, not walk far in front of me and hold my hand? Or not reject me when I try to initiate hugs or kisses?
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Anonymous 5d

If those things are impacting your relationship and he isn’t making an effort to work on them or compromise at all that’s probably a sign y’all aren’t compatible. If he can’t or won’t do those things and that’s what you need to feel loved then it means he can’t love you the way you need. What you do with that information is up to you.

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Anonymous 5d

nta

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Anonymous 5d

He blames it on sensory issues/undiagnosed autism but I have asked several times over the span of our 3.5 year relationship and I feel unloved

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Anonymous 5d

NTA but you’re the idiot! How are you gonna withstand that for 3.5 YEARS!

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Anonymous 5d

Is the bar really that low? Like I’m sorry but he should be doing that stuff anyway and if doesn’t want to show you that affection then dump him

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5d

I guess he was perfect the first 6 months at least but yeah I get what you’re saying. Just hoped he would learn over time

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

If he was “perfect” for 6 months and stopped then there’s nothing for him to “learn.” He knows what he’s doing and he’s doing it on purpose because you haven’t left him for it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

He could blame the random touching on sensory issues. But the other things are just asking for basic consideration

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