Of course it’s not new but I think people are realizing the parasocial relationships are more harmful than people have realized in the past and that’s why people hate especially since 90% of girls will shove it in your face. Grateful Dead (might just be who I’m friends with) isn’t shoved down my throat the way Taylor is from friends with all different backgrounds. People take it as hate, but I don’t think they realize most of it is just bluntly calling out weird the parasocial relationships
When she was wearing sneakers on the bleachers, duh. You Belong With Me, despite being a fire song, is a pick-me anthem, and I’d argue pick-meism is like self-diagnosed counterculturalism. Which makes what you’re saying a really good point fr. So the answer is never unless you’re asking swifties