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AITA for telling my parent that either I come and my Partner sleeps in my room or I get a hotel when I visit? For reference she has never particularly liked me, but asked me to bring my partner so they could meet, asking to spend one night. 1/3

Anonymous 10w

I’ve had to sleep in separate rooms from my partner due to the family member I was visiting was old (grandmother) and because I wasn’t married to the person. I slept in separate rooms from them and was perfectly fine it wasn’t a big deal it was just an out of respect thing.

Anonymous 11w

I said yes and assumed we’d sleep together in the same room she got upset and said no and I told her I’d get a hotel if not no big deal. She got very upset hung up on me and has now sent me a long text outlining why I was wrong. For reference I don’t live at home and am in college that I alone pay for.

Anonymous 10w

That’s the thing is most of the time it’s a religion thing she fully admitted in the long texts I got that it’s a control thing, she’s not religous I told her if she’s not cool with it it’s not a big deal and I can stay elsewhere and still visit ( I usually don’t even go down) and she got even madder that I wouldn’t “ respect her house rules” idk there was a lot more in the texts that I forgot about

Anonymous 10w

it’s normal for parents to not want you sleeping in the same room as your partner in their house, it’s not like you’re married. respect her rules if you want to stay in her house… and as for getting a hotel, i feel like that’s a little rude that you won’t stay with your mother unless you can be in the same bed as your partner….

Anonymous

OP 10w

Nta, if your paying for your life style its up to you how you live. By getting a hotel you’re respecting her rules

Anonymous

#3 10w

So that’s what my original thought is but she called me told me she had no problem with it at all ( she lets my brother do it all the time with his gf) and that and I quote “ I don’t know why I don’t want it I just feel like I shouldn’t let you” also you make no sense in the point “ respect her rules if you wanna stay in her house” which I did, and offered a alternative. Also my mom openly doesn’t like me which is why I don’t usually stay at Home, I will usually won’t stay or go to dad’s family.

Anonymous

#3 10w

How is it rude for someone to respect the rules of their parents house? If anything its more convenient for the parents because it means less people staying all in one house together. They’ll still be visiting, they’re just not gonna sleep in the house with the parents.

Anonymous

OP 10w

I’d recommend (if you and your partner are still visiting) avoiding this parent’s house all-together and only meeting in a neutral location/s. Maybe you can meet in-person, if you think it’d help, once you (organize all of your points together) and the parent (relaxes to talk from a less emotional pov) to talk things through to truly try to understand one another. But only if you think this would help!

Anonymous

#4 10w

I think I’ll try that! My step dad ( her husband) does have terminal cancer and has a few months left so I do really want him to meet my bf !