AITA on Yik Yak | My boyfriend rarely flushes the fucking toilet and I want to break up with him over it. It’s disgusting. He blames it on his adhd or “not being done with the bathroom” wetf that means. Im tired of it staining and leaving a weird film.

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My boyfriend rarely flushes the fucking toilet and I want to break up with him over it. It’s disgusting. He blames it on his adhd or “not being done with the bathroom” wetf that means. Im tired of it staining and leaving a weird film.

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Anonymous 14w

Break up

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Anonymous 14w

i have adhd and i don't do that. don't let him blame it on that!!

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Anonymous 14w

Gurl, why u dating an infant

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Anonymous 14w

That’s gross, break up

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Anonymous 14w

That’s fucking disgusting bro what the fuck. Break up with him cuz that’s outrageous. I wouldn’t put up with that toddler shi

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Anonymous 14w

Ew dont let him excuse that behavior by saying he has adhd?? I just gagged omfg break up with him

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Anonymous 14w

i have textbook adhd, this is not an adhd thing

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Anonymous 14w

That is gross if it’s #2. But to be fair I live alone and if I pee I don’t always flush the first time bc I can pee a lot of sometimes because of a health condition and it wasting water. But I don’t get the film you’re talking about so I guess it never sits in the toilet long enough to become “visibly gross”?

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Anonymous 14w

Girl what I have ADHD that does NOT = filthy and disgusting

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Anonymous 14w

Plz break up with him. Fuck that shit, he needs to leave.

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Anonymous 14w

i’d rather have an expensive water bill then a bathroom that smells like stale pee, i’d break up w him especially if you’ve already talked to him abt it and it still hasn’t changed

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Anonymous 14w

MY EX DIDNT FLUSH WHEN HE SHIT LOL REASON #103048 WHY HES MY EX

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Anonymous 14w

actually tell him this is break up worthy. you do not want to deal with a constant piss smelling bathroom your entire life, it’s draining. he can fix it or leave. do not put up with this pls.

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Anonymous 14w

i have adhd and i always flush it is NOT DIFFICULT PEOPLE

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Anonymous 14w

That’s not ADHD that’s just poor hygiene. People can learn to be mindful of others.

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Anonymous 14w

A whole ass adult not being able to just flush a toilet is fucking NASTY and definitely valid terms to break up

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Anonymous 14w

As someone who has ADHD, and is a guy, sometimes I do forget to flush the toilet. Especially if I was doing something else beforehand and my mind was on that, and making sure I also wash my hands. Usually step 2 just slips. But I also live alone so nbd I just flush it next time I'm in the bathroom

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Anonymous 14w

Literally break up and block worthy. Disgusting behavior

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Anonymous 14w

I have adhd and I’m capable of basic hygiene. I don’t want to assume his condition is the same but this is disgusting.

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Anonymous 14w

As someone with adhd, he can flush the toilet.

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Anonymous 14w

i have severe adhd, that is not an excuse to be nasty😭😭

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Anonymous 14w

Leave his ass that’s nasty

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Anonymous 14w

My older brother does this shit and its pure laziness. Dont accept their excuses.

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Anonymous 14w

I truly think this is a narcissistic trait. He knows exactly what he’s doing.

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Anonymous 14w

Ok being real here; I was the young teenager who would sometimes forget to flush the toilet, and when my sister would get pissy about it I’d just tell her to fuck off. But once you learn not to be a dumbass does he not smell what piss that’s been sitting there does to the br? Does he not clean the toilet?? Make him be the exclusive toilet cleaner and see how much he enjoys cleaning up his own marinated piss

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Anonymous 14w

Break up

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Anonymous 14w

ngl i have a roommate that will do that on occasion and it lowkey grosses me out so bad

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Anonymous 14w

Must be a child then. Better break up since that’s illegal

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Anonymous 14w

It’s really gross but probably indicative of something (I don’t know what exactly) of adhd. As long as he genuinely tries to fix the issue I mean give him a chance it’s just flushing the toilet. Yes break up if a grown man can’t keep up with flushing, but I mean try with him first if you’re supposed to love him lmao.

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Anonymous 14w

If it’s yellow let it mellow if it’s brown flush it down

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Anonymous 14w

Tf? Weird ass accusations that’s actually disgusting

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Anonymous

#2 14w

Like high key? Why are you dating a pig?

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Anonymous

#6 14w

the only thing i blamed my adhd on was over my emotions 😂 which is actually valid but being dirty isn’t an excuse

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Anonymous

#9 14w

“wasting water”… water is going to be wasted regardless-😀😭

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Anonymous

#8 14w

I mean, flushing the toilet 4-5 times an hour is worse than flushing it once or twice. So ? 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Anonymous

#1 14w

Btw you guys just joining. #1 called me a PĒÐØ for dating this man. (He’s a year older than me btw) SO YEA #1 IS WEIRD ASF.

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Anonymous 14w

You’re weird. Like actually strange. That’s not something u can throw around -someone who’s been victimized by multiple grown predators.

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Anonymous 14w

My response was to #1 not #2.

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Anonymous 14w

#1 called me a Pèďó under her response and got massively downvoted so it got removed

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Anonymous

#9 14w

i agree, if it's yellow let it mellow, if its brown flush it down

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Anonymous

#11 14w

I honestly don’t see the harm in not flushing urine as long as you’re not leaving it so long it leaves stuff nasty and stale urine smelling. But I think an hour or two isn’t going to hurt. I have IC so I can pee up to ten times an hour. Do you think I’m wasting all that water? No ma’am. Have you seen utility bills? But if it’s brown it needs to go down now.

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Anonymous

#22 14w

Except its not just piss, he does it with his shit. Actually disgusting

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Anonymous

#25 14w

Like I get other areas. Maubforget to brush teeth bc god knows we can form bad habits easily but good habits just don’t stick, but that’s bc out of sight out of mine but the toilet? Hard to miss

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Anonymous

#25 14w

Might forget**

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Anonymous

#12 14w

like yea i forget things like dishes but that’s because of object permanence. flushing the toilet is literally like. the toilet is right there. there’s no plausible reason to “forget” it. people don’t leave the bathroom then walk back in to flush the toilet

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Anonymous

#25 14w

yea like forgetting other hygiene things can happen more easily but forgetting the toilet and/or washing your hands which are literally right there in front of you is just not how that works. this isn’t the same as accidentally bringing like a fourth glass of water into your room because you forgot you already did that the first three times this is like. you are On The Toilet. how in tf are you “forgetting” it

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Anonymous

#27 14w

seems op has talked with him about this already

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Anonymous

#23 14w

Jesus Christ guys it’s gross but you can literally google it forgetting to flush can TOTALLY come from adhd from lack of certain cues and build up of other habits. Yes it’s gross, but it’s not like a morally abhorrent crime against humanity. Jesus Christ. Try and work with the guy I mean all this response over a toilet. My sister does that shit all the time but I’m not gonna disown her and never talk to her again over it

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Anonymous

#27 14w

yea but after talking with them and them making excuses instead of like actually working on it is not excusable

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Anonymous

#12 14w

Agreed. We of course don’t know the full extent but I’m assuming real work hasn’t been done

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Anonymous

#8 14w

So YOU are today’s engineer? OMG, if so, we are screwed fr! 2nd grade physics, “matter can neither be created nor destroyed, it can only change shape.” There is the exact same amount of water on this planet as there was 5000 years ago.

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Anonymous

#11 14w

Gross

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Anonymous

#13 14w

Wrong

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Anonymous

#29 14w

so you think every person with adhd is filthy and disgusting?💀

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Anonymous

#12 14w

Is that what I said? Are you trying to bait people?

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Anonymous

#12 14w

It’s almost anti-adhd the way everyone in this thread is SO dismissive and misunderstanding. The way adhd works it could TOTALLY bleed over into a habit of forgetting to flush. You think you’re defending ppl w adhd but really you’re making people who don’t have control of it feel like shit.

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Anonymous

#27 14w

what we’re saying is he’s been called out for it and doesn’t seem to be making an effort to fix it and is instead blaming his adhd and using it as an excuse and a crutch

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Anonymous

#29 14w

you said “wrong” to a comment saying “ADHD does NOT = filthy and disgusting” idk how much more outright you could’ve been

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Anonymous

#29 14w

Ahh I can see the troll now. Or the idiot. Not sure which you are tbh.

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Anonymous

#12 14w

Especially cuz he’s a man, he’s literally staring at it

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Anonymous

OP 14w

if its pee then he’s just lazy and making excuses, but not worth a whole ass break up, if he’s leaving dooks in the toilet and NOT FLUSHING? thats foul work drop him dude

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Anonymous

#29 14w

bro does not know how a utility bill works

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Anonymous

#34 14w

yea that’s different than consistently not doing it then making excuses

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Anonymous

#29 14w

not true. matter is the same yes, but water can be destroyed. for example through electricity but also plants break it down as a part of photosynthesis!

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Anonymous

#6 14w

I have adhd and I don’t forget either

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Anonymous

#27 14w

That’s not adhd, that’s just laziness

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