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AITA 2w
aita for being upset that my brothers fiance planned their wedding on my birthday? i understand wedding planning is hard but she was explicitly told it was my birthday and she chose that date anyways. (more context in comments)
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Anonymous 2w

my brother isn’t too closely involved bc he’s in highway patrol school and isn’t home except for weekends, but i’m upset because they haven’t even told me yet and i had to find out through my mom, who was also the one who told them multiple times it’s my birthday. my mom mentioned that venues are slim but i wouldn’t care if they just communicated with me bc i don’t feel i should throw my birthday away for their wedding.

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Anonymous 2w

??? that’s crazy. lowkey sorry to your brother but I would just like go out with friends instead of to the wedding 🤷‍♀️ he also knows your birthday and if he wanted you there that bad he could’ve told his finance to change it

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Anonymous 2w

You can have both can’t ya? Bad plan yeah but not totally spoiled

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

also in my eyes like why do you want your anniversary to be on someone else’s birthday who is directly related to you?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Yeah that’s another good point I didn’t consider. Wack

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

omg I didn’t even think about that part ?? bc you know they’ll be skipping all your parties from here on out for their anniversary trips. I’d like ACTUALLY hold a grudge idc. they wouldn’t like if someone did that to them and sounds like poor planning on their part if they waited so long to get a venue

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

if it was my 21st i’d just act a fool at the bar but we’ll see what i do i got a few months

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

do you have any friends close by? I know all mine moved away so i understand if not. but if so I’d be planning even just a simple sleepover at one of their houses

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

EXACTLY WHAT I SAID. they got engaged last december so idk why they did that other than my brother being gone M-F until he graduates in october. but still it’s just inconsiderate when i love my brother enough to compromise but i need communication and respect for that first.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

nah i’m out the house i can just chill at my house but thank you for the idea!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

men really aren’t THAT important in the wedding planning. it’s common knowledge that you need to be booking a venue ASAP, like imagine planning everything and then having to cancel bc you don’t have a venue

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Anonymous replying to -> notsyurpyett 2w

i can do it the day before but my main point is the fact they haven’t taken time or consideration to talk to me. i’m the step sibling so it’s just a last straw ig

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Tell them how you feel bro, they ain’t gonna ever validate your emotions until you stand up for yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> notsyurpyett 2w

well the only reason i know is because my mom told me i didn’t even get an invite yet so how do i even bring that up

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Yo

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Celebrate your birthday yourself like plan it they did the same to you postpone that invite

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