AITA on Yik Yak | Gonna trigger the people who think you’re allowed to toss your friends to the side when you get in a relationship but whatever. My best friend and I stayed close the first year she got a bf but this year it’s different. We go weeks without talking

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AITA 5d

Gonna trigger the people who think you’re allowed to toss your friends to the side when you get in a relationship but whatever. My best friend and I stayed close the first year she got a bf but this year it’s different. We go weeks without talking

Anonymous 5d

nta, if shes not putting effort in but still pretends to want to that can be extremely frustrating. it’s completely understandable if you want to cut her off or say “hey you havent been putting in as much effort as i need in my friendships so either do that or I need space bc it has been hurting me” (up to u obvs)

Anonymous 4d

You need to respect boundaries and find new people to hang with. Don’t revolve your whole life around someone else who has other priorities

Anonymous 5d

Weeks without talking or hanging out (I go far for school so we really only would see eachother over breaks but even over breaks she doesn’t make an effort) I continuously kept putting in effort so I finally stopped. She kept sending me tik toks talking about how great low maintenance friendships are. This really made me mad bc it’s like obviousely it’s great for you that you can go months without putting effort in and I’m still your friend. She’s always there if I really need help with anyth

Anonymous

OP 5d

(2) but personally that’s not enough for me. I love when a friend can be there for me but if we don’t talk at least every week or so it feels like we’re strangers. Worst part is her bf lives in the same town as her so when I’m away at school they hangout every day so you’d think when I get back she’d wanna see me, usually I’m the one texting her for plans so I decided to sit back and so far she hasn’t texted at all for plans.

Anonymous

OP 5d

(3) she does very minimal effort things like “omg i miss you hang soon” but no effort to actually make plans. I want to just cut her off but is that bad if she didn’t really do anything ‘bad’ just stopped putting in effort?

Anonymous

#2 4d

Oh found the person who drops their friends when they get a bf! You must have reading issues I do not “revolve my life” but it’s upsetting to lose a close friend.

Anonymous

OP 4d

Im a dude…im telling you peoples priorities change and you need to learn to be okay with that

Anonymous

OP 4d

If it’s to the point you have to post 4 paragraphs to justify yourself you need to look at yourself in the mirror and ask if it’s worth it or not

Anonymous

#2 4d

I was more aiming this at people who have gone through similar…if you haven’t that’s okay.

Anonymous

OP 4d

lol oh now you wanna switch up 😂😂😂I have gone through that exact same thing with like 3 people and that’s what I did and understood and I’m still close with 4 of them

Anonymous

#2 4d

Then you haven’t gone through it lol…my situation is different than yours and the friend I am referring to does not care about close friendships at all as long as she has her bf. So good for you but not similar to what I’m going through

Anonymous

OP 4d

I didn’t give you all the details of my situations. I told you the results of my situations. I’m trying to help you but you to focused on trying to be right than actually listening. That’s why your friend pushed you aside cuz you’re only thinking about you and not her

Anonymous

#2 4d

Right…I guess I was correct that you must do the same to your friends when you get in a relationship because you’re justifying a friend pushing her friends aside when she gets a bf. If I was a problem she would’ve pushed me aside before that…we were friends for 7+ years so you don’t know what you’re talking about