
1) she pettily said “oh you so you all forgot this thing we worked on?”, and I responded with “it’s hard for us to remember what to do here when you change it everytime we come back to it” and I said it frustrated so it came out more stern 2) it was said because we forgot which is not on us at all 3) I said it to her with everyone else involved there 4) everyone else was too nice to want to stand up to her
Here’s the part I’m struggling with… is it not mature to vocalize what’s going wrong and explaining to the person who caused things to go wrong why it’s going wrong? I understand that being frustrated and coming off (likely) more aggressive may not have been the best mindset to state it in, but I think what I did isn’t anything I should be forced to apologize for
Can it be mature to do that? Yes. But that doesn’t mean it’s always mature inappropriate to do it. You’re confusing addressing the situation with telling someone off. Your words to her aren’t going to make her change her ways or improve things. Standing up for what you believe in and pointing out things that are wrong can be a grown mature thing to do, but snapping back at someone who’s been pissing you off isn’t that.