AITA on Yik Yak | aita for getting upset with my boyfriend after he stayed out until 4am with his friends knowing that he promised to go with me to the farmers market the next morning? (he refused to get up for our date)

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aita for getting upset with my boyfriend after he stayed out until 4am with his friends knowing that he promised to go with me to the farmers market the next morning? (he refused to get up for our date)

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Anonymous 2w

I understand you so well !! My bf was like that at one point but then I set clear boundaries that he ended up respecting. If u can’t follow thru with a date, do not stay out. And if u do, u will face the consequences of my reaction. If ur partner cares about ur reaction and silence, he would simply change his habits. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t care about u. Almost everything can be changed. So don’t let them tell u they can’t. Ps: my bf and I been together for 3 years

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Anonymous 2w

I’ll go to the farmers market with you!

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Anonymous 2w

Brotha i hope this man learns a lesson and quits fumbling the bag

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Anonymous 2w

U mean ex bf?

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Anonymous 2w

My ex did this constantly. One of the big reasons he’s an ex. Constantly slept through my plans. Not only did it hurt my feelings it was disrespectful to the time and money I put into them for nothing to come of them.

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Anonymous 2w

NTA. Your boyfriend is TA. He should have planned better, your plans were made first so he should have thought about you. Or at the very least, he should have gotten up in the morning anyway, drank a coffee, and sucked it up. Based on that description it seems the he doesn’t care about you at all, he cares more about his friends, which you would have a right to be upset about.

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Anonymous 2w

No - he should have done what he said he was going to do. Sounds like a loser to me.

Anonymous 2w

NTA, promise is a promise and he broke it. You have every right to be upset

Anonymous 2w

No ur not the a-hole. That’s disrespect from him

Anonymous 2w

Did he still go to the farmers market with you or no? And even if he did, was he acting tired/miserable?

Anonymous 2w

No you’re not ta. On another note, I would be so down to go to the farmers market with you ngl

Anonymous 2w

Tbh might be time to reevaluate your relationship

Anonymous 2w

ngl id crash outtttttt that is so disrespectful to your time! Please tlak to him and actually hold him accountable for making you feel this way

Anonymous 2w

kill him ⭐️🫶🏼‼️

Anonymous 2w

You're nta. He made a promise and he failed🤷‍♀️ Its really matters if he apologizes and CHANGES. if this is a pattern then u might want to leave so u dont build resentment

Anonymous 2w

Your are NOT the asshole

Anonymous 2w

My ex used to do stuff like that when we started dating and then he threatened to strangle me and almost got us in a car accident

Anonymous 2w

he’s the AT a real baller can go out till 4 and get up for their commitment ( work, class , a date)

Anonymous 2w

If it was me, I wouldve gotten my ass out of bed, hit the shower, and said “let’s go!” I don’t fuckin understand some mfs. Like, you promised her you’d go to the fucking farmers market with her. Get your ass up and go. 3 hours of sleep or not. A promise is a promise

Anonymous 1w

I would be sad :(

Anonymous 1w

Yes literally kill him WTH?

Anonymous 2w

This happened to my bestie… on her birthday brunch…. that was planned weeks ahead at a new restaurant she was beaming about for weeks….. he also made her out to be the AH in that situation……. TRUST ME you are NOT the AH.

Anonymous 2w

teaaaaaa

Anonymous 2w

so break up with him 😭

Anonymous 2w

you are not the asshole gurl 💅😘

Anonymous 1w

absolutely not. he needs to honor his promises, this shows irresponsibility and disrespect towards you.

Anonymous 1w

You’re allowed to be upset.

Anonymous 2w

Commitments are important. He’s in the wrong for not honoring his, but it sounded like she was angry about him staying up late (instigated fight then) and her anger was bailed out by his not waking up. Sounds like a very strict parent

Anonymous 2w

please free yourself girl if this is a pattern, you do not need that lazy inconsiderate man in your life. if he prioritizes his friends when you clearly made plans with him beforehand thats fucked up.

Anonymous 2w

that isn’t your boyfriend at that point, that’s THEIR boyfriend

Anonymous 2w

How are you the a-hole for that😭😭😭

Anonymous 1w

NTA but also you should communicate very clearly with him about why it upset you. If he doesn’t care then that’s a bigger issue

Anonymous 1w

He’s the AH tbh, NTA. Get a divorce 💔

Anonymous 2w

Nah…be upset. Demand your standards while upholding them yourself and then leave him when he proves over and over again how little your wants and needs mean to him

Anonymous 2w

Yeah kinda

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Anonymous 2w

Can a 🥷 live?

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Anonymous 1w

I’ve done this once before she did not like it

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Anonymous 2w

Bros before hoes or something

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Anonymous 2w

If he doesn’t want to take you out he doesn’t have to. Sounds like he never wanted to take you out in the first place and only did so to please you. A reaction to your obvious controlling attitude, but also lazy on his part. Regardless he doesn’t want to be with you, he just is scared to not be.

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Anonymous 2w

he’s probably gay

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Anonymous 2w

ATA

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Anonymous

#3 2w

Ima girl btw

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Anonymous

#5 2w

This^^^

Anonymous

stolas 2w

Wrd😭

Anonymous

#8 2w

“He refused to get up for our date”

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Anonymous

#17 2w

Ain’t no talking anymore - show em what a jet 2 holiday feels like

Anonymous

#15 2w

Not gay. Just inconsiderate

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Anonymous

#19 2w

Could be both

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Anonymous

#9 2w

You ain’t wrong

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Anonymous

#13 2w

And not to mention the waste of time

Anonymous

purple_rabbit_face52 2w

Yes!!! Wasted so much time doing absolutely nothing waiting for him. My last straw was when he slept through my birthday planes😍

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Anonymous

#13 2w

A man will always show you how he feels about you, especially on your birthday. He hated you.

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Anonymous 2w

are u okay…

Anonymous

purple_rabbit_face52 2w

I don’t think it was necessarily that he hated me, but he was mentally unstable, didn’t take care of himself, very dependent on me and his parents, and was honestly just kind of a loser and slob. It was a VERY odd dynamic, literally can’t even explain it.

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Anonymous

#13 2w

There’s no excuse for treating you that way on your birthday.

Anonymous

purple_rabbit_face52 2w

I’m not saying there is.

Anonymous 2w

UNintentionally? Sounds more like poor planning and irresponsibility to me

Anonymous 2w

Hi so I’ve been through this, and if it’s repetitive it’s definitely grounds for a breakup. It’s more than just sleeping through plans. It’s a lack of respect and care for you and your time and plans. Left him and am now with someone long term who actually respects me, my time, and effort that goes into planning things. But sure I’m “incapable of holding genuine relationships” bc I won’t take continued disrespect and lack of care.

Anonymous 2w

Sounds like you need the therapy

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Anonymous 2w

I have a great bf who would never sleep thru plans even if he stayed up late doing something with his friends. But the biggest thing is if he knew we had plans in the morning he would have never stayed out till 4am… and would have gone to say the flea market. It’s about respecting ur significant other and if there’s a plan made u don’t sleep thru them. But what do I know🌝

Anonymous 2w

“they spew their opinions for the echo chamber to agree with” so exactly what you’re doing now? 😭😭

Anonymous

#9 2w

REAL SHIT

Anonymous

#5 2w

this ^^^

Anonymous 2w

I think we found the boyfriend y’all

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Anonymous 2w

he purposefully stayed out. it was unintentional at ALL.

Anonymous 2w

It’s more like if he agrees to go on a date that next morning, he should be mindful that he still has that date even if he wants to stay out. If their night plans predated OP’s farmers market plans, she’d have to realize that he may not wake up in time because they had already scheduled a night out. It’s just mindfulness

Anonymous 2w

they said they wanted him to change this ONE habit. it’s disrespectful to make plans and bail last minute because you can’t manage your time correctly. that’s a healthy boundary to put up. if he asked them to change a habit of theirs then i bet they’d change it, but that has nothing to do with what they were talking about.

Anonymous 2w

Sorry for being rude but Notice how 500 people understood what I said and didn’t take it negatively. Only negative minded people like urself would misinterpret such a simple concept.

Anonymous

#36 2w

Thank you. I literally said “if u can’t follow thru with the date, do not stay out.” Not sure where the negative misunderstanding came from.

Anonymous

#38 2w

Thank you !!!

Anonymous

#25 2w

That’s literally not what that means

Anonymous

#20 2w

You all act like u just have all the time in the world to hang with friends. As we can see everyone wants their time valued. A majority of times your SO takes up that chunk of time in comparison to friends anyways. If my gf was out with her girls and was hung over I undoubtedly can change plans and go on a date another time. I’m happy she got quality time with her friends and they’re safe. If my reaction is to call in to question her commitment and or mine and refer to them as an ex given….

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Anonymous

#20 2w

This context then I must not actually value them over something so mundane and fixable when it comes to relationships. You’re all typing like children with 4 situationships and max long term relationships of 6 months. Please.

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Anonymous

#26 2w

then why agree if he didn’t want to?? it’s either your lying and going to be miserable at the event or you tell the truth. like ???

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Anonymous

#20 2w

You sound 40. Why r u on yikyak😭 obviously people should do things with their friends but 4am is excessive and then to refuse to get up when they had plans is also excessive. But pop off gramps

Anonymous

#20 2w

no one is saying you can’t hang out with your friends but if you made a commitment to your significant other and decided to stay out late with out canceling plans before hand you 100 percent the AT your grown use your words and communicate. Not waking up or not saying thing prior to you deserve to have you partner upset you. However if that’s your boundary that you don’t care cool beans but that doesn’t automatically make it your partners.

Anonymous

#9 2w

I’m 21. Being out that late is normal. Go outside and party. Get a life

Anonymous

#42 2w

In that situation communication would be rescheduling and apologizing. Again…not referring to them as an ex which need I remind is the basis for the comment u all agreed with and which I am refuting.

Anonymous

#44 2w

What’s wrong with the people here smh.

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Anonymous

#44 2w

The people who gather here are crazy. How many of you are even males

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Anonymous

#46 2w

Not if u in a relationship promising shit🥱

Anonymous

#48 2w

Y’all act like she’s the only one with wants and needs it’s absurd

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Anonymous

#44 2w

He promised to go with her and then blew her off after he fucked around all night. Not that hard to use your head

Anonymous

#44 2w

Bruh read the room

Anonymous

#44 2w

L take . try again

Anonymous

#48 2w

Bruh I couldn’t give less of a funk about “the room” oh please. Y’all are such a disgusting hive mind

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Anonymous

#45 2w

He doesn’t have to do anything. He can change his mind if he was too tired to go. It’s not a big deal at all. She’s blowing it up into some pity party disaster that it quite clearly isn’t and making it about her when he’s tired and probably has no interest in going and she’s the only one who wanted to

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Anonymous

#44 2w

This is why no one likes you

Anonymous

#45 2w

Bitch harder

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Anonymous

#20 1w

Had to come back cuz here I am out till 4am with my friends while my bf stayed back and guess what. There was communication and we didn’t have any plans tm!

Anonymous

#9 1w

I’m happy to hear that hope the rest of the night goes well

Anonymous

#44 1w

Nobody’s bitching. You’re just acting like a loser 🤣🤣🤡

Anonymous

#45 1w

Crash out harder yikes

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