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am i wrong for expecting my bf to buy me jewelry? i want a birthstone set that’s under $100 which i think isn’t that expensive and he said i shouldn’t even have an expectation of him buying me jewelry since we’re not even married yet
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Anonymous 2w

Get a man

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Anonymous 2w

That’s the bare minimum honestly, you’re not wrong for wanting what others get in their relationships. Watch out for that kind of thinking from him because it might mean he sees you as temporary and not a true commitment. If you guys have been together for a while, it’s probably time to reevaluate some of the things he does and says

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Anonymous 2w

no ur right

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Anonymous 2w

I bought my gf a necklace three months in for Christmas. NTA

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Anonymous 2w

A 100$ is a lot for some people. But gifts from Both sides can be an expectation if you guys are together for a while.

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Anonymous 2w

This is why I’m gay

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Anonymous 2w

I got my gf a 350$ ring for Christmas and now just a 200$ necklace for her birthday. I don’t think it’s an unfair expectation. Just be willing to accept if he can’t at the moment. If it’s a forever thing that’s a problem but like. There’s some times where she wants a piece but I just can’t afford it, so she makes a list lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

we have been thinking about marriage for a while and also been together 2 yrs. but i think he thinks it’s wrong for me to expect him to buy me stuff. he thinks it should be more like he will buy me something if he wants to but doesn’t want to feel pressured to. but i don’t pressure him we never even go jewelry shopping ever

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

It’s not wrong at all. Partners buy each other gifts. Do you buy him nice gifts? If you guys have been together for two years and he still feels like he can’t buy his partner (who he is already considering marrying and spending the rest of his life with) a nice gift, then that’s an issue. It means he’s not confident about committing to the relationship. The moment marriage is on the table imo the distinction between that relationship becomes marriage license or no marriage license. Idk smths off

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

it’s not a lot for him he almost always pays for dinners at that cost at least every two weeks and he has a job too

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Then he needs up his game

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

we aren’t super into gifts but i do nice things for him a lot eg cooking cleaning buying him birthday present or paying for dinner every once in a while. and he buys me little things every now and then too. like he would rather receive yummy food than a bottle of cologne for example. but i think it would be nice every once in a while if i did want a tangible item like a jewelry? idk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

That’s perfectly reasonable on your part. But if he’s bought you a bunch of little things here and there, there’s no reason he can’t save up to get you a nice necklace or something

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Shouldn’t be a problem then, you didn’t ask for an engagement ring.

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