Anonymous #5 15w

I really feel like that too.

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Anonymous mother_russia 15w

Just so you know what resources you have available, there are lots of government agencies and non profits that will help single pregnant women raise their kid with childcare, cost, insurance, food, and even just mentally preparing for it. Gov orgs : TANF , WIC , Medicaid , SNAP Charities : Salvation Army, Embrace Grace, Circle of Health International

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Anonymous mother_russia 15w

And if you choose to not keep your pregnancy, that is absolutely okay as well. You are in a horrible spot right now and making the decision of what’s best for you can only be made by you. Planned parenthood is a great place to ask the risks of the abortion and future pregnancy as well as the risks of pregnancy itself. They can talk you through your options and help you with what ever care you need.

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Anonymous mother_russia 15w

I would highly recommend staying with a friend or family member during the time of the appointment and afterwards because it is obviously a distressful situation and no one should go through that alone.

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Anonymous #18 15w

single moms are the bravest people i know

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Anonymous #16 15w

her boyfriend fucked her best friend, he also verbally abused her& having a baby will be a constant reminder of that. would that be fair on you if that was you??

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Anonymous #27 15w

LITERALLY THOUGH!!

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Anonymous #11 15w

Single moms who care and love their baby

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Anonymous #27 15w

We’re sick? For wanting a baby to live? That baby isn’t a cheater or a liar.

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Anonymous #14 15w

Yes. She got pregnant and now she has to live with that. An abortion is a cowardly way out. She will remember what he did anyways, but the baby would be her way of having some positivity. Abortion is murder and will fuck her up more. Have you ever had an abortion? It’s traumatizing and extremely painful and you’ll have to be on medication for it because how badly it fucks up your body

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Anonymous #16 15w

You’re not sick you’re just showing empathy to the wrong party. Its really easy to tell someone what you think they should do until you find yourself in a tricky situation like this. I guarantee you would want people to approach the situation with nuance and understanding, not black and white standards which completely ignore the nature of the situation. Stop punishing people with your lack of understanding. Thats just cruel.

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Anonymous #29 15w

Showing empathy to the wrong party?? You mean the baby she’s about to murder for no good reason?? No that’s having empathy towards the right party and not justifying murder. And don’t go saying I’d do the same thing in this position. No I wouldn’t. Murder isn’t right in any scenario and if I was irresponsible enough to get pregnant that’s on me. I wouldn’t abort a child because I was an idiot.

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as much as i believe in God and agree with you, not everyone does. we can’t base is pro life arguments on God. people are deserving of life whether or not God is real to them or their parents.

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Your perspective isn’t reality. No one’s single perspective can dictate the reality of a situation and the fact that you can’t possibly grasp that concept tells me you are kind of self absorbed. Hopefully you never find yourself in a situation like this, but if you did maybe it would help you learn something about empathy. Also, not everyone is religious and not everyone needs to find god. You mfs are actually insufferable.

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Anonymous #16 15w

I used to be of a similar mindset until I was raped 2 years ago. I would never ever be stupid enough to put myself in a situation like that, and then it happened. If I would have gotten pregnant from that my life would have been ruined. It’s everyone’s first time living. People make mistakes because if they could avoid them they most likely would. Yes, you have empathy for the wrong party. You think she should be condemned to live a hard life because someone did something evil to her.

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Anonymous #29 15w

So you got an abortion instead of giving your baby away? There are so many people who can’t have kids who desperately want one and y’all are killing these babies left and right. Rape I can understand but it’s still murder.

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Anonymous #16 15w

Life can make you look like an idiot whenever it decides to. Thats why its important to be empathetic because when its finally your turn, people like you will be telling you how you should feel about something when they have absolutely no clue what the entire situation looks like. You aren’t the moral authority.

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Anonymous #29 15w

People won’t ever have the chance to try to convince me not to murder a child because I would never do that regardless of the situation. I have empathy for the baby and that’s it.

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Anonymous #16 15w

I didn’t have to get an abortion because I was blessed enough to not have to deal with a pregnancy as a result. If I had been, yes, I would have gotten an abortion. All I see is a really privileged person who hasn’t experienced that kind of adversity telling me how I should feel about it, and all I have to say is you sound really stupid.

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Anonymous #16 15w

“I have selective empathy” 😂 yeah, we know buddy.

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Anonymous #29 15w

No I should educated and pro-life. Calling me stupid shows you have no other facts to back up your point. Abortion is wrong

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Anonymous #16 15w

Im not even name calling you, its just the truth of the matter. Anyone who refuses to understand someone’s perspective is not intelligent enough to have a conversation about something.

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Anonymous #16 15w

And anyone who is experiencing it first hand definitely has more perspective than you ever will.

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Anonymous #29 15w

You have no idea what I’ve experienced. And same goes to you if you can’t see my perspective. Or I don’t know, the baby’s?? The only one who’s about to get murdered because it’s dad fucked up?

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Anonymous #29 15w

Successful at becoming a murderer yep.

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Anonymous #16 15w

I would bet money that you have not experienced what OP is experiencing rn so lets not pretend. Also, the “baby,” is not a baby yet. It doesn’t have perspective, and if you claim to be factually driven then you should have known that already. You’re just throwing the definition of murder at a problem without actually thinking about it a little bit. You’re not educated, you’re ignorant.

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Anonymous #16 15w

Why should I consider your perspective if you’ve declared off the bat you’re not considering anyone’s perspectives because you’re “educated” ??? Thats not how it works. Im not giving you something you refuse to give other people. Thats the entitlement and privilege talking,

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Anonymous #29 15w

Actually, yet again you’re right. I have experienced the money and fear of not being able to afford a child. It’s happened to me and to friends I’ve had. And they didn’t get an abortion and they got help. Her friends won’t help her because they have morals. So stop acting like you know I’m some richy rich girl who doesn’t know what she’s talking about. I do.

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Anonymous #16 15w

You love that word dont you?

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Anonymous #16 15w

And it’s a baby. The second it was fertilized it became a baby.

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Anonymous #29 15w

Just like how I love children who are alive

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Anonymous #16 15w

My lifespan development professor would disagree with you

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Anonymous #16 15w

And probably anyone who knows anything about the reproductive process

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Anonymous #16 15w

Oh great! You’ve just revealed that you have no idea what you’re talking about. Thank you, I didn’t even have to do anything. I applaud your friends for making that choice, but not everyone should have to suffer like that, which is why its important to have the option. I didnt even say anything about you being a “richy rich girl” but thanks for saying something without me having to ask 😂

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Anonymous #16 15w

You love to be judgmental behind a phone screen. Women like you set us back 100 years.

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Anonymous #16 15w

You’re also admitting that your friends had resources while the OP does not. Maybe you can use your brain and see the nuance in that richy rich.

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Anonymous #16 15w

That’s just not accurate. Abortions are safer than full term pregnancy and giving birth and claiming op will have to be on medication bc of “how badly it fucks up your body” is just a fear mongering. First term abortions have the same risks as a first term miscarriage (which I have had a miscarriage so I understand how painful and traumatic it can be) so where are you getting your information that you believe abortion is so detrimental to your body?

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Anonymous #16 15w

You can believe it’s a life or that having the child would be better mentally or emotionally for op, and you can argue your case for why op might benefit or get joy from giving birth, but inaccurate information about medical safety and fear mongering is 👎 not it. Let’s keep our comments helpful and constructive.

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Anonymous #29 15w

Im judgmental without a screen too. And no, killing our offspring sets back all humanity 100 years. But yeah you go ahead and deplete our population for your own sick wants.

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Anonymous #29 15w

Everyone needs to find God and He has a plan for that baby. I’m not self absorbed or else I wouldn’t care about the baby. Or the mother. Or the other babies that get murdered every day. But thanks for your shitty opinion that ultimately just makes you look a demented piece of shit for agreeing with the murder of children.

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Anonymous #16 15w

“deplete our population” ???? this says everything i need to know about #16’s knowledge on this topic. The globe is far past its carrying capacity and the United States has no need for excess population, please educate yourself on this! We are not living in 1980s China.

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Anonymous #16 15w

Deplete our population? Do you see how our population is suffering? Have you ever seen someone digging through the trash for a meal? Say what you want about people and how they handle adversity but its easy for someone like you to take a stance on what someone should do in the situation they’re placed in. People like you say you care about human lives while turning a blind eye to actual suffering.

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Anonymous #25 15w

Key word “would-be”, it’s not a child yet😒

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Anonymous #16 15w

Nobody is telling you to get an abortion😒 it’s each to their own, but the fact u want to sit here and shame someone bc u never experienced what she went through is where you’re wrong. Who gives af if little Timmy is not born, when little Connor has no parents, no home, no nothing. Y’all not pro life bc that would mean caring for EVERYONE, u are pro asshole

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Anonymous #16 15w

Being judgemental isn’t a flex by the way. That just tells me life hasn’t kicked your ass enough, but I promise in due time it will.

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WHO WANTS TO BE HOMELESS AND LIVE IN A WOMENS SHELTER WITH A CHILD😧

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My professor has a doctorate and knows the accurate scientific terms for certain stages of reproduction. You’re just some random girl online with no valid experience or credentials to have an informed opinion.

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Anonymous #16 15w

do you know how many kids don’t get adopted and have to age out of the system? a system that sucks btw. but sure let’s tell ppl to have more kids to put into the system😆

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omg it’s not alive. a embryo/fetus can not survive on its own without the help of the mother until it’s at least 22 weeks and the chances of survival then are slim. she is doesn’t have to be a human incubator if she doesn’t want to be. you wouldn’t make that decision for yourself that’s great for you. but other ppl can do what is best for them bc it’s THEIR BODY. NOT YOURS! so how abt you take your right wing christian views out of this comment section unless you can support the decision.

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didn’t your mother ever teach you if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all.

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Anonymous #27 15w

What a Queen/King👏 everything you said was spot on

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It seems like you’re being hateful just to be hateful. Well, you made a mistake, condemn yourself to a life at the woman’s shelter and think about what you did. Even though your boyfriend was unfaithful. Imagine the trauma this person is dealing with and this is how you approach them? You’re hateful. And you don’t actually care about the issue, you want to feel moral superiority so you’re taking advantage of someone in a bad situation by being hateful online. I know what kind of person you are.

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I used to be you, and then life humbled me. So I suggest you humble yourself before life does it for you.

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Anonymous #29 15w

Dude you’re such a Redditor it’s hard to not cringe reading this

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Anonymous #16 15w

are you forgetting that he had sex with her best friend too??

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Anonymous #16 15w

there’s also 750,000+ kids in adoption & foster care. not everyone can afford children.

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Anonymous #16 15w

not everyone has the friends nor the support system to help with having the money & resources to fund for the baby. she literally said her best friend and her boyfriend had sex together.

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Anonymous #27 15w

& so many kids age out of the system OR that a lot of people don’t want to adopt teenagers or older kiddos cause people say that they’re broken & people don’t want to “fix them”. there are also laws where the kids can consent if they want to be in adoption care or not

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Anonymous #16 15w

You’re an awfully judgmental religious person. I thought you guys didn’t like that stuff.

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unfortunately not everyone finds joy with their baby. not everyone wants to be mothers& THATS OKAY, and that should be THEIR CHOICE if that’s what they want to do. we should respect others for THEIR CHOICE.

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Anonymous #41 15w

i’m sure having that baby will be a constant reminder of it all. coming from someone who had a rape baby, as much as i love him & i always wanted to have kids growing up. but he is a reminder of what happened, which is traumatizing in itself.

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Anonymous #14 15w

i’m not saying it won’t be hard. i’m not even saying she has to raise the child. but that’s a baby that someone else could love. give it up for adoption, don’t kill it. op literally said she was excited but then all the drama unfolded so she scheduled an abortion. it shouldn’t be taken that lightly. at the end of the day it’s obv not my child but i just think women shouldn’t schedule an abortion so abruptly. i personally believe abortion is okay in the instance of rape but this isn’t rape.

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Anonymous #14 15w

so murder is better got it

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Anonymous #41 15w

you didn’t even bother reading, did ya?

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Anonymous #14 15w

when kids have instability, a lot of the times, there’s a higher chance for substance use, addiction, mental health struggles, trauma, not getting the supports that someone needs to functionally live. sure abortions aren’t all that great of an option, but the baby will have a higher chance of not having the supports that they need to succeed when alive.

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Anonymous #16 15w

i’ve actually had a cousin who had an abortion. child birth & abortions are both equally painful and traumatizing. they both fuck up your body. how would a baby be positive when the father abused her & slept with her best friend?? the baby is half of him.

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Anonymous #14 15w

Eugenics

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Anonymous #22 15w

it’d be eugenics if it was geared towards a specific population target. like the holocaust, that’s eugenics.

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Anonymous #22 15w

Sounds like I stuck a nerve

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Anonymous #29 15w

Strike some grass

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Anonymous #22 15w

Strike up a real argument

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Anonymous #29 15w

I have no interest in arguing with Redditors

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Anonymous #22 15w

You’re just like me fr the way you keep replying to these comments

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Anonymous #22 15w

You’ve replied to three different comments now who do you think you’re fooling buddy

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Anonymous #29 15w

I didn’t argue with what you were saying I’m just making fun of the way you talk

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Anonymous #41 15w

ya know, she may have given it thought& that thought could’ve been probably wouldn’t be in the best interest due to her own reasons, it could possibly toll her mental health more, she may not have the supports, etc, we don’t know. we all don’t have to agree if she should have the bavy or not. but it’s moreso of allowing her to make that decision if she wants to or not. but we shouldn’t tell her what she should or shouldn’t do, just empower her through her choice, even when there’s a disagreement

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Anonymous #22 15w

And you’re still here.

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Anonymous #22 15w

Just give up

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Anonymous #41 15w

and one of the reasons that it may seem abrupt is cause roe v wade overturned, so each state has their own abortion laws. some states are more flexible about when they can have their abortion, some are more restrictive. a lot of women don’t find out that they’re pregnant until they’re 6 weeks along. a lot of the restrictive states ban abortion at that 6 week mark. doctors can lose their jobs, license, etc. & get into serious legal trouble.

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Anonymous #14 15w

if someone posts in AITA about scheduling an abortion appointment they probably want input. if op didn’t want opinions, she shouldn’t have posted. i said in my previous comment it’s not my child i can’t decide for this person what she does with the baby. but i will speak on it because i think it shouldn’t be taken lightly. i see it as murder when not in extenuating circumstances such as rape and if i make someone think twice about killing their child im fine with that.

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Anonymous #14 15w

i did read i just strongly disagree with the viewpoint. “abortions aren’t all the great of an option” ?? we can sugarcoat it all we want but it is murder. we’ve become completely desensitized as a society to murdering innocent unborn children. if you don’t want a child take the correct precautions. murdering your baby based on an abrupt life change is eugenics and should absolutely not be normalized.

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Anonymous #29 15w

op will have to deal with the murder of her unborn child weighing on her every single day for the rest of her life but nobody wants to acknowledge how the abortion will affect the woman’s mentality. it is not an easy solution to get rid of an unwanted child. it’s murder and the mother will have to life with that for the rest of her life

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Anonymous #41 15w

my question is.. how do you feel about child & teenage pregnancy? 90% of child sexual abuse cases happens with someone that they personally know. a girl can get pregnant as early as her first period, which for some girls, that’s early as 9.. on average it’s about 11. do you think the 9 year old who got pregnant by her brother or dad should give birth to the baby?

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Anonymous #41 15w

bro loves the word eugenics

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Anonymous #3 15w

literally

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Anonymous #41 15w

is it a human life if it doesn’t have a heartbeat yet??

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Anonymous #3 15w

it’s true though. eugenics is picking and choosing in order to improve the genetic quality of the human population. anyone using the viewpoints “op shouldn’t keep it because it’s unwanted and will live a life unloved” or “if op gives up baby for adoption it will have a bad life in the foster care system” are practicing eugenics.

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Anonymous #41 15w

no, they literally are not.

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Anonymous #41 15w

Hate to burst your bubble bud but life experiences aren’t genetic. Mfs do not have rich, poor, adopted, loved, or unloved in their DNA

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Anonymous #41 15w

Alright well either way she’ll suffer so lets leave the decision up to her.

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Anonymous archery 15w

it’s not always about dna necessarily. it’s about what people expect that child’s life to be and decide it isn’t good enough, therefore justifying killing it. it’s not right

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Anonymous #41 15w

The point of eugenics is quite literally DNA. Experiences are a different thing entirely. But hey, if you’re so passionate about OPs would be baby, maybe you can offer some financial or other help instead of consistently stating how you think what’s she’s doing is wrong

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Anonymous #44 15w

your ignorance is really shining through. it’s not murder. doctors don’t even consider a baby alive until they hear that first cry signifying that they’re breathing. a fetus is surviving solely from it’s host. maybe her placenta detached, is it still murder? maybe she would have died during childbirth, the baby too, is it still murder? fuck off with your dumbass opinions. for all we know, you’re secretly the next jeffrey dahmer.

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Anonymous #43 15w

I can’t possibly be the next Jeffrey Dahmer because I think murder and premarital sex are wrong

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Anonymous #44 15w

well, that’s exactly what the next jeffrey dahmer would say. murderer in my book.✅

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have you been in there when a baby isn’t crying and the team starts scrambling? that baby is not alive until that first cry, that first real breath. the ignorance is judging someone’s choice and calling it murder because it doesn’t fit your narrative and beliefs.

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Anonymous #14 15w

“i see it as murder when not in extenuating circumstances such as rape”. so if you could read to the end of my comment, you’d be able to put together that i do not believe it’s right to force an 11 year old to carry their rape baby. rape is out of your control, but willingly not putting a condom on or getting on birth control or taking plan B during consensual sex at a grown age is your own fault. if you don’t want a kid don’t have sex irresponsibly

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Anonymous #14 15w

idk what correctly determines a “human life” from a scientific standpoint so i stand by the viewpoint that it WILL BE a human if the pregnancy was to be carried out. you cant deny that if you don’t have an abortion, a baby is going to pop out later. so that’s human life to me

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Anonymous #41 15w

I did want my baby. I couldn’t keep it because I can’t handle it by myself and don’t want to deal with the situation with the father. All of this coming to light has changed my perspective on motherhood. I’m not ready. I’m not ready to be a single mom with an abusive baby dad. I can’t pay medical bills for a child by myself just to give the baby to adoption.

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Anonymous #41 15w

& everyone views & defines human life differently based on who you talk to, their culture, their opinion, their education, their experience has taught them.

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Birth control failed because I was on antibiotics. It can happen to anyone

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birth control has a long list of side effects that can damage long term. recently there has been studies coming out saying the birth control shot has been causing brain tumors.

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if you read what she said& have an open mind. unfortunately people can still get pregnant on birth control, that’s what happened to me, got pregnant & gave birth to my rapist’s baby. op said she didn’t feel ready to bring a child into the world, whether you agree with it or not, it should be up to her choice if she feels ready & the only person who will know that answer is her.

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there were times where i didn’t want him & i had that choice to make. i was raped. i still have the trauma of being raped. my son looks just like him, too. but whether people agreed with me or not to have him, that choice at the end of the day, was up to me ultimately- not a bunch of strangers on the internet telling me what i should do.

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and he was abusive towards her. since he was already abusive towards her, how do you think he would treat the baby??

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is she the asshole for having her ex boyfriend verbally abusive to her?? is op the asshole for her best friend having sex with her at the time boyfriend??

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not everyone is assertive, sometimes people are too scared to speak their mind when someone is being mean to them. whether you agree with the decision or not, op is still a person at the end of the day, where she can make her own decisions whether we like those decisions or not.

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and that’s the trauma that she’s going through. there’s also still trauma of giving birth & bringing a life into the world, as well. sometimes people forget rules with their medications, we shouldn’t be mad at people for simply forgetting things, we are human, we tend to forget shit

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just because you wouldn’t have an abortion does not mean she wouldn’t have an abortion. she’s an adult, if that’s the choice she wants to make, she is allowed to make that decision; or if she doesn’t want to have one, then she can make that decision too. but we shouldn’t be telling others of what to do with their own body. i’m sure you wouldn’t like if i came in telling you how to control your own body, so why do it to others??

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Anonymous #14 15w

Murder isn’t a choice you just get to make

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Anonymous #22 15w

she said she was 7 weeks pregnant.. at that point, the baby is smaller than a blueberry at that point

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Anonymous #14 15w

So murder is ok if they’re small. Got u.

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Anonymous #22 15w

there usually isn’t a heartbeat at that point. i didn’t hear my son’s heartbeat until he was 9 weeks.

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Anonymous #14 15w

Heartbeat starts at 1 week whether you can hear it or not

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Anonymous #22 15w

i never said it was okay. it’s moreso op given the choice of what she wants to do is where i’m coming from

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Anonymous #22 15w

technically starts at week 6, most people find out at week 6, but it peaks at week 9

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Anonymous #27 15w

An INFANT can’t survive on its own either??? Does that give the mother the right to kill it? Some disabled people can’t survive on their own, elderly people can’t survive on their own. Should we kill all of them?

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Anonymous #29 15w

Give up? It’s not challenging at all to make fun of you, you’re an easy target.

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Anonymous #14 15w

Orrr better yet. I’d love to adopt the child off her hands altogether. Nice try

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Anonymous #25 15w

will you be paying for her prenatal care at the hospital, the cost of birth, and the cost of aftercare? or do you just want her to be an incubator so you can have a free baby?

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Anonymous #25 15w

Wait, really? As in, this is a full and genuine offer to adopt a child from this specific individual?

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Anonymous #3 15w

There are resources for that. The child doesn’t have to die for the sake of convenience.

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Anonymous #49 15w

Absolutely. If OP seriously wanted to take that route, I would 100% accept the baby.

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Anonymous #16 15w

#29 literally said they didn’t get pregnant from it tfym

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Anonymous #41 15w

that’s not what eugenics is bestie boo

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op literally said they wanted the baby at first so why tf would they be on bc

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Anonymous #44 15w

stfu bbg

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Anonymous #48 15w

an embryo is a clump of cells. also plenty of elderly people survive on their own. like i said unless you have something nice to say… goodbye

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Anonymous #27 15w

Cringe

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Anonymous #25 15w

so you want this lady to pay thousands of dollars and go through months of pain so you can have a free baby? sounds fucking privileged

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Anonymous #25 15w

there’s already over a million kids in adoption care. you can adopt one of them or several!!

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Anonymous #25 15w

Convenience? Yall prolifers think pregnancy is so sacred and a miracle forcing every woman to go through it because it’s so important but the thing is it is sacred and important and life altering and no government should’ve ever intervened in any women’s decision whether that is eugenics shit or just overall refusing women control of their reproductive health care. To bring life into the world is a serious act just as much as an abortion.

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Anonymous #25 15w

Pregnancy is a miracle by choice even if unplanned if the choice is to keep him or her that is a miracle. Forcing women to give up their body to another being just because you hold the real horrors of pregnancy and child birth as just an “inconvenience” makes it seem trivial. It’s not. It never has been and never will be especially given the anatomy of the human species with our evolution into bipedalism and the pelvic bone.

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Anonymous #25 15w

Also peace and love at what point am I supposed to give a shit? At conception? Because if it’s at conception am I supposed to mourn every potential nephew and niece pouring out of my sister on her period? Plenty of fertilized eggs don’t attach to the uterus and are disposed of every month.

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