AITA on Yik Yak | AITA: I don’t think that special-needs parents (especially anti-vax) are reputable sources on SPED. They do not typically have the education to dismiss those who spend years studying and clinical. Just like parents aren’t automatically child-dev experts.

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AITA: I don’t think that special-needs parents (especially anti-vax) are reputable sources on SPED. They do not typically have the education to dismiss those who spend years studying and clinical. Just like parents aren’t automatically child-dev experts.

Anonymous 8w

I agree in most cases but I think there are some circumstances where a parent will absolutely know their child better than a professional

Anonymous 8w

As a disabled person, I give exactly 0 credit to what parents of disabled children have to say about disability-related issues. I once picked up an article and all the interviews were parents saying how their (sometimes adult) children felt. Like sorry, gross.

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Anonymous 8w

Reputable sources for THEIR child only. Special education is so case by case that what works for their family may not work for others (true for all parents)

Anonymous

#2 8w

That’s the important distinction, between the child and sped. Like if mommy is locked in she can confidently say that frozen grapes can mollify little Jonny mid melt down, but that’s usually as far as it goes. Most parent’s expertise about parenting only really extends to their own child.

Anonymous

#4 8w

Similar feelings, as a OHI disability and also SPED minor & credential student. (Planning to be a special ed teacher)

Anonymous

#4 8w

Ive worked with special ed children for a while and I’m a children development minor with a focus on special needs and I will say when the kids are younger, their parents do tend to know what they’re talking about. I almost always go to parents before I try something out of a textbook. But as the kids grow up, it’s much harder for the parents to let go and realize they are no longer the expert

Anonymous

#2 8w

It usually comes down to fear of change and growth, it’s completely natural and with the kids that require more time, patience, and involvement from parents. So if you’re really interested in the child’s wellbeing, it’s important to understand the parents too, or it will create a world of stress for everyone :)

Anonymous

#2 8w

Well obviously if the kid can’t talk you have to listen to what the parent says but kids form opinions about their likes and identity really young and once a kid can’t tell you something it’s immediately kid > parent. And once that kid is a teenager it’s not really relevant what the parent feels about their kids disability. It’s not about them anymore.

Anonymous

#4 8w

Many of the kids I work with can’t speak even as a teenager :) but again, I agree with you and I said that, I’m simply saying that when working with sped kids, it’s important to understand why parents struggle so much with letting go… in order to help make the transition easier!! Many of the kids I work with will rely on their parents indefinitely, so causing tension in that relationship is exactly what you don’t want to do.

Anonymous

#4 8w

I know I responded to you, but I suppose it was more of a response for OP if they’re serious about working with special ed kids!! Just my experience

Anonymous

#2 8w

That makes sense. It’s pretty much just like with any child SPED or not.

Anonymous

#6 8w

But I also know kids (any kids) tend to open up more to people that aren’t their parents for this very reason.