Anonymous #1 3w

That’s definitely true cause the things they’re saying about other people they’ll probably say about you too. And did you mean the word worrisome? (I’m not nitpicking your grammar btw. I just didn’t know if it was a spelling thing or not since I don’t use that word a ton myself so it’s easy to forget.)

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Anonymous #2 3w

If you’re actively talking about how much you hate a certain group, even if it’s your own race, that’s more than just a preference. A “preference” doesn’t mean constantly insulting people who don’t fit it.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Regardless it’s about a group they are apart of … I am a black woman dating a white male and I talk about how I don’t like black men and some black women .. there’s nothing wrong with that and it’s not a red flag at all .. it’s not like you’re trying to get validation

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Anonymous #2 3w

I’m also a black woman with a white man and being a part of a group doesn’t magically make you generalizing and insulting a group—esp to people who aren’t in it ok. If you’re not ALSO saying good things you’re projecting trauma at best or stigmatizing people, reinforcing stereotypes, and possibly fetishizing others at worst. You don’t have to be a red flag to yourself but I’m not dating people who do that kind of stuff and I’d definitely be questioning their motives for dating me if they did.

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Anonymous #3 3w

so corny

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Anonymous #4 3w

Work smarter not harder king 🫡 and if you ever do date outside your race you’d probably be doing it for the right reason

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Anonymous #6 3w

Quite shit stereotyping.

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Anonymous #7 3w

??? i’m going to call a thing a thing i’m sorry if that makes me unwoke. ik why they do it and ik what pressures they have but idgaf they’re misogynistic as shit and i’m going to go where i’m appreciated till they figure their nonsense out

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Anonymous #3 3w

valid

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Anonymous OP 3w

Nah people be racist I’m sticking with my kind I don’t think there is a “right reason” to date outside of my race

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Anonymous OP 3w

no it’s def worrisome haha

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Anonymous OP 3w

Forsure meant worrisome. I commented at 12 am my time yesterday. I blame my sleepiness

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Anonymous #5 3w

Did the shoe fit?

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Anonymous #2 3w

Wait until you find out women can also be misogynistic even though it’s their own gender😭

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Anonymous #6 3w

That’s called stereotyping. It’s also quite a shit one. Everyone with a specific skin tone is misogynistic. That sounds stupid because it is.

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Anonymous #6 3w

“unwoke”… no you’re just stupid😭

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Anonymous #7 3w

if a vast majority of a specific skin tone is misogynistic then im assuming everyone is 🤷‍♂️idk what ur trying to prove

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Anonymous #5 3w

maybe skin tone is wrong, but culture? i will always see muslims as mysoginistic and u cant argue they arent

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Anonymous #5 3w

Calling out cultural norms you grew up with ≠ saying how much you hate a certain race. The second one is what the post is about.

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Anonymous OP 3w

yeah ofc im just pointing out how #7 is arguing stereotyping is a bad thing when sometimes its objectively true

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Anonymous #5 3w

Nah I got ya, I was replying to your comment to make a general statement about the thread

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Anonymous #8 3w

i think there’s a difference between having bad experiences and forming your opinion off of that versus judgements based on internalized stereotypes and hatred

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Anonymous #5 3w

Stereotyping is bad wtf? Are you braid dead? How do you think stereotyping everyone of a specific race is good? Just blatant racism. As well as fetishistic towards other races. This is well known.

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Anonymous #3 3w

So you like low t bitch made men?

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Anonymous #17 3w

Holy racist

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Anonymous #7 3w

don’t careeeeeeee😴😴😴😴😴 get a better reputation then the fuck. also men of a misogynistic culture tend to be misogynistic… this isn’t rocket science

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Anonymous #6 3w

You’re completely misunderstanding and trying to shift the argument because what you’re saying is wrong. You’re shifted now to “tend to be”. You make statements of absolutes about race and now culture, which is something you can actually have a discussion about, that make no sense. “Everyone one of this race is predestined to be this thing” is a stereotype that is harmful. Idk what race you are, but if you’re talking about a cultural thing an argument can definitely be made about issues there.

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Anonymous #6 3w

It isn’t rocket science. It’s basic sociology. Understanding the basics of societal functions are elementary.

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Anonymous #8 3w

yeah no same, my worst experiences have been with people in my own race that have been incredibly xenophobic towards me, now i instinctively just steer clear in terms of dating them, but it’s not like i hate my own race, i just wouldn’t take talking to a guy from my own race seriously (i mean it still happens sometimes, but it’s not smth i actively pursue)

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Anonymous #5 3w

Stereotyping is never “objectively true”. That literally makes zero sense. “Everyone of this subcategory thinks this way”. That’s what you’re saying is “objectively true” sometimes. Especially when it comes to ethnic groups this couldn’t be further from the truth.

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Anonymous #7 3w

bro. 🫩 somebody from a conservative culture is more likely to be conservative. this literally isn’t rocket science jesus christ i’m not saying i’m dehumanizing these ppl or not gonna treat them normal. i’m saying i don’t see myself marrying into a misogynistic culture. could i perhaps find the minority non-misogynistic family? sure. but unlikely. stop being dense.

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Anonymous #7 3w

are you white by chance bc i think that’s why we’re having this very basic disconnect … or a man even bc u prob feel attacked

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Anonymous #7 3w

“basics of sociology” is knowing that people are most influenced and shaped by the society and culture they grow up in. hence a man growing up within a misogynistic culture is more likely to be misogynistic. 💀💀💀 broski there is no woke way out of this one. could ALL of them not be that way? sure. but factually MOST of them likely are.

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Anonymous #6 3w

I get where you’re coming from. I think #7’s issue had more to do with you highlighting race instead of culture tho. For u they’re the same bc the ppl of your race grew up IN that culture. But to some outsiders it sounds like condemning ppl at a glance BECAUSE of their race. Saying “I’ll never date Middle Eastern men bc they’re all sexist” has a very diff vibe than “the Muslim culture I grew up in was sexist so I date other races who I know aren’t associated with that instead” as an example.

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Anonymous OP 3w

*Also obv not all ME men are Muslim, just using that as an example

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Anonymous OP 3w

ohhh okay i see the disconnect there. ig i should clarify that men of my race usually grow up with the same culture and environment

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Anonymous #6 3w

You keep saying woke like a literal dumbass. What are you trying to do by saying that over and over? No one is trying to be “woke”. It’s simply the CORRECT way society functions. You mentioned race and claimed ALL people of a race are a way. You didn’t even mention culture till after. You’re trying to play “i’m smarter than you”, but that’s genuinely so stupid.

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Anonymous #7 3w

first of all i said men. that is a pretty significant subcategory. and i keep mentioning “woke” bc you keep insinuating that the things i feel and belief are not “correct” somehow bc it doesn’t fit a “one size fits all” observation of culture and race. and i brought up culture bc men of my race all grow up in the same culture. i’m not trying to play an “i’m smarter than you” card, i’m disturbed by you denying my reality for a hypothetical perfect world of “we’re all the exact same”

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Anonymous #7 3w

if u dont stereotype muslim and 3rd world country men as mysoginstic and act with western standards around them u can genuinely find urself in dangerous situations lmaoo trust me i know

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Anonymous #5 3w

Point went over your head. Muslims follow a religion. It’s not a stereotype to think they are a specific way because of their religion. Their religious beliefs tell you that.

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Anonymous #6 3w

Strawman. No one said you can’t feel a specific way. I’m saying “everyone who is ___ is ___” is a stereotype that doesn’t make a lot of sense. You’re attempting to diminish the conversation to “common sense”. That’s just anti-intellectual. Shows even more when you’ve said “woke” like 3 times. The belief that everyone of a specific race is one way is a harmful stereotype.

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Anonymous #6 3w

You’re “disturbed” by something I never said. You’re playing victim because your argument was illogical until OP came in and fixed it for you to make some sense.

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Anonymous #7 3w

what about indians and other south asians lol, nothing in their religion constitutes what they do to women

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Anonymous #5 3w

You’re misunderstanding. No one is defending women being objectified and abused. Saying every Indian male is an abuser is a harmful stereotype. Can you control if you’re born in India? No you can’t.

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Anonymous #7 3w

im saying you HAVE to assume a majority are though if youre for example visiting india if u care about ur safety

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Anonymous #5 3w

That doesn’t apply to what I’m saying. We aren’t in India. If you go to Iraq, it’s safe to assume some of the people you see are terrorists. However, you’re in the U.S. That’s not as much the case. It’s a rarity and a harmful stereotype. Especially to Indian-American and Arab-Americans.

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Anonymous #7 3w

yeah but at that point theyre more american than their respective country thus adjusting to western values, im talking about stereotyping people who live there

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Anonymous #5 3w

It’s not a stereotype if there’s major prevalence. Saying India has a major problem with sexual assault among the lower casts isn’t a stereotype. It’s backed by facts. Saying everyone is India who is male has committed sexual assault is not backed by facts. Therefore, it’s a poor stereotype that is harmful to Indian men who haven’t done anything wrong.

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Anonymous #7 3w

Exactly. Also if you’re from that group and had bad experiences that’s valid. The problem is ppl from OUTSIDE that group won’t know the nuances of “assimilating to western culture” or race vs cultural upbringing. If you’re conflating PERSONAL experience with universal fact others will hear those comments and project them onto any random person who LOOKS vaguely like a group in a way that can harm them even if they aren’t guilty of the things someone has experienced.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Well said here.

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Anonymous OP 3w

not replying to y’all after this but it is not my responsibility to protect this whole generation of men from the consequences of their own actions and attitudes and unwillingness to change. and a lot of them wanna go around being “influencers” of masculinity. i would actually prefer that they get shamed for their misogynistic views as much as possible. and the magical few “good ones”? they’ll likely nod and understand the failures of their own gender. much like how we shame men in general now

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Anonymous OP 3w

it seems like the both of you are going off hypotheticals and don’t understand what it’s like to actually live within a community where one gender’s whole personality revolves around hating women and blaming feminism for their failures and being told i need to pick the best out of the bunch to “fix”. & i will share whatever feelings i have with my significant other bc that’s what they’re there for. & i don’t expect for him to go around hate criming ppl.

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Anonymous #6 3w

actually if more men in general were shamed for misogyny i’d prefer that

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Anonymous #6 3w

You’re not “shaming men for misogyny” tho… You’re being closer to misandrist by making blanket false hoods. I’m a RF, but throughout history the quickest way to stifle feminism movements have been creating in and out groups. Liberation comes with actions not hatred of every male.

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Anonymous #7 2w

wtf 😭 there aren’t random terrorists just walking around in baghdad. it’s insane to me how out of touch americans are

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Anonymous #7 2w

and i say this as an american

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Anonymous #5 2w

u sound a lil slow ngl

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Anonymous #19 2w

ur literally american bro, i bet the most exotic place youve been to was canada or mexico

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Anonymous #5 2w

mexico is more foreign to me than egypt, not every american is white

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Anonymous #19 2w

still american 🤧 lack the understanding of living in different continents with different people to have a valid voice in this lol

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Anonymous #19 2w

There just is. You’re out of touch. Acting like terrorism doesnt exist and blaming “Americans” is truly stupid.

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Anonymous #5 2w

you’re assuming i haven’t been to other continents or have close family that aren’t from other cultures

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Anonymous #7 2w

terrorism exists but it’s clear yall know next to nothing about iraq, or know any of the history and politics behind why religious extremism is even happening

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Anonymous #19 2w

“you know nothing about Iraq based on the 2 sentences you said about Iraq”. You’re genuinely at the peak of mount stupid atm. You learned about US destabilization on Tik Tok and the Ba’ath Party, so now you consider yourself “educated” on a topic you know the smallest information about. Please pack up your “i’m so intelligent” bags and see the exit.

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Anonymous #19 2w

I’m so glad as well you can virtue signal here you’re so so brave! Please tell us about how you learned where Palestine was on a map in 2023! I’m so proud of you!

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Anonymous #7 2w

nah i was gonna talk about wahhabism and saudi arabia but again you’re just assuming. انت غبي

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Anonymous #19 2w

“you’re just assuming” most hypocritical shit ever coming from the person who came in here saying “i know everything you know nothing” based on one sentence in a hypothetical. You’re a real life of work.

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Anonymous #19 1w

if u proudly state ur american i will absolutely assume that 😭

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Anonymous #7 1w

i never said i know everything and u know nothing. it’s literally just that white americans tend to know less about islam and the middle east than someone with that background, just like how i probably know less about europe than u. a lot of people say false or propagandized things about islam and muslim countries so yeah, as someone with that background i’m gonna call it out

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Anonymous #5 1w

i’m a first gen american and yes i’ve been to other continents

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Anonymous #19 1w

It’s not propaganda to say Islamic terrorism is more prevalent in counties such as Iraq, who have a 90%+ muslim population. It’s propaganda to act like that not true. Iraq has gotten significantly better in terroristic reports after Bush, but they still have a significant amount of terrorism. Acting like it’s “propaganda” is stupid.

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Anonymous #7 1w

and most of those terrorists’ victims are innocent muslims. your average iraqi is just someone trying to live their life, they’re not going to be a terrorist

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Anonymous #19 1w

I know. I don’t think anyone thought differently.

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