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AITA 13w
AITA: My bf and I are getting more serious and he is not a fan of the nightly bong rip. I told him gently that this is my lifestyle and I wish he was open about him not supporting weed when we met. (1/2)
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Anonymous 13w

I love him and I won’t force him to stay with me if this is some quality that he doesn’t want in a girlfriend. Yet again, I feel like the asshole because I’ve stopped my weed smoking so much already that one bong rip a night is as low as I’ll go. This happens maybe 5-7x a week. (2/2)

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Anonymous 13w

commenting for pt. 2

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Anonymous 13w

People life their lives differently and neither of you are in the wrong or assholes. If you both feel like this is just the way you are, maybe have a serious conversation about the relationship long term. I’ve found smoker/non smoker relationships struggle if one or the other projects shame, judgement, and no support

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

former stoner, why do you feel like you need that bong rip a night? like i used to be a heavy dabber and it was always for my anxiety and when i finally quit i realized it had turned to giving me mad anxiety all the time

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

I’ll justify it by saying it helps me calm down at night and that it allows me to eat (whole nausea/lack of hunger GI stuff). But I think the truth is that I can’t let it go. It helps a lot but I can’t go a night without it…

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

I was also a huge stoner like you used to be too. It was kind of an all day thing but it stopped around the time I met him. He was just so chill with me doing it and didn’t say anything? After our first date we all smoked with a mutual friend.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

so do you maybe feel like you’ve reached a point where you need to stop just for your own sake? like obviously it’s not as harmful as other addictions but if you couldn’t fathom the idea of stopping cold turkey for a month then maybe it’s something to consider

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13w

You might be right and maybe I just don’t want to admit it but who knows? I’ve kicked a really really bad drug addiction a few years back and it almost feels like weed is the one thing that I can’t completely stop. I did stop for detox and rehab and was clean from THC for 6 months. But holy fuck it was rough. You say you’re a former stoner, what’s helped you change?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

honestly i was just dabbing so heavy and i left the country for a few months and wasn’t smoking. then when i came back my tolerance was so low i couldn’t hang w my stoner friends anymore without greening out and i just didn’t want to have to restart so i just didn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13w

I think we might be the same person. I have GI issues and smoking weed is a necessity for me. Had one girl that when things were getting serious, she stopped kissing me after i smoked and would get mad when i smoked to help me sleep (acute insomnia). So i ended up ending things

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